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[dk_justin]

Thank you, Bev Oda, for closing 12 of 16 Status of Women Canada offices. God forbid this country actually helps protect women from violence and helps with pay equity

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Women do get the short end of the stick and it should stop

[just_shane06]

We do live in a world where women don't get paid enough and often go home to just do more work. We live in a world where growing up boys get to stay out late, have sex and do what they plase and women can't and it's not fair.People beat people in this world of all genders and sexs and stuipd and it should stop sadly a lot of women do get more of that and then are told that they shouldn't build musssle because it's not fem

Re: Women do get the short end of the stick and it should stop

[dk_justin]

I can honestly say I've never had a problem at Goodhandy's, and neither have any of my friends...that I know of. I'm not saying that the post in the torontoqueers was wrong, cause I know her too...and I believe it did happen. However, I refuse to let a couple idiots who happened to be out that night stop me from going to and performing at a place I love. I go there almost every weekend.
I totally disagree with telling anyone they can't go somewhere...the decision is really theirs to make. It's their risk to take if they chose to, however it is your relationship...and what I wouldn't do in mine isn't going to be the same decision you make in yours. I just think that living in fear and avoiding places lets a few thugs win.

Re: Women do get the short end of the stick and it should stop

[just_shane06]

I would never tell someone i love where they can and can't go it's not who I am. I'm in a reationship where we are trully equals and thats how it should be. What i would and do do however is air my feelings and ask as we both do. When your in a very loveing realtionship where the power is equal you often give each other the space to air feelings that you might have not in others and because of our love for each other we listen and try not to do things that would make the other worry or feel pain. My baby is butch and can more than likey take care of herself. I just don't ever want that tested by a gang of stuipd assholes. And she would have no want to go there other than to support me which is why the thought brothers me. If she was there for her too it and knew the risk and decided that she was willing to risk it to become part of a community I would stand by her 100% of the way. But because it would just be for me I don't like it and i don't need things that are going to put her at risk. So yes some assholes win because they might

[yes_you_do]

I feel like I should comment on this... being an uber Femme and all, and yes... what the Conservative government is doing is setting all of Canadian society back a few years and I am saddened and ashamed of our government not only for women's issues, but for environmental, economical, and equitable issues as well.

However, as to how femmes are treated in the queer community... I WON'T really comment... because I have learned that mine is the first opinion to be shot down, ignored or criticized. Things I say are not valid, or are bitchy or catty, and how dare I get involved anyways and who do I think I am to pass judgment…

Exactly.

[dk_justin]

I'm obviously right there with you about our government.
The queer community...I haven't had same the experiences you've had. I see a lot of things I don't agree with and aside from ranting about it in a blog, I'm not sure how to make things better. Do I do anything to stop it or am I one of the assholes who contributes to the problem? Should I even be speaking up in the first place? This is the struggle I had over my workshop at IDKE (Femmes in Drag)...I want to be an ally, but I don't want to speak for a group when I don't have the same experiences and just be appropriating my own privilege in the community.

[yes_you_do]

We are all guilty of being one of those assholes at one time or another. But, you know what? We spend far too much time in this community worrying about what we should or shouldn't say. Sometimes, we don't need to speak for groups, we just need to speak for ourselves. And, if have been offended by someone... TALK about it with them... tell them why you feel the way you do and accept that they might not empathize, and if you have offended someone... TALK to them about it and MOVE ON!!! We don't all have to agree all the time! Not everyone has to like you! Say what you feel like saying, be mindfull and respectful of others, be an ally, and understand that you can't make everyone happy all the time. Just say your piece of peace and get it out there.
Mind you... do as I say and not as I do, because I've stopped communicating about what I think at all because of the backlash this entails... but... I'm workin' on it :)