...what got me from there to here?

[dopeynowhere]

I often wonder what seperates me from someone else. Coming home from work tonight two guys climbed on the bus. They were older, middle-aged, I took them to be gay. The younger guy had a cellphone with him and he kept opening it and playing the ring tone songs - to the point where the driver had to ask him to stop. He had a boyish appearance

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[missannethorpe]

I think it is really fascinating that so many interactions we have with people really aren't random. I mean, who knows what happened to that guy after you got off the bus, but maybe the conversation you had with him helped him keep from drinking that night. Or maybe just at some point down the road when he is ready to get sober, he'll remember you and it will give him hope for himself.

It's funny when you are a stop on the road of someone else's karma.

[dopeynowhere]

It really is. I remember standing out front of the Ha-Ra about a year ago. A guy pulled up to a red light. He sort of looked like me. Only a couple years older and a little heavier. He leaned out his window and said "I've been sober three years!" right out of the blue. It was because he recognized himself. And in a reverse or unconscious way maybe I was experiencing the same thing. There was no animosity or judgement in the exchange. I just said "Ahh - you'll live longer!" (I meant 'than me') and laughed. He yelled "It all seems like a dream!" and drove off. And I knew he'd be right. It sounds absurd to say but it seems like one long twenty year dream sometimes.

It does give pause and lend a feeling of hope or faith, that maybe there's a larger order to things. I really think alkies have something similar to gay-dar in that they recognize one another in a way other people don't. Call it alk-dar maybe. That's "alk-dar" and not "Alf-dar" which would be different but still very useful. HA! Hey WILLY!!