Comments | drankthetea: Childfree by Choice Article

drankthetea

Childfree by Choice Article

Jul 27, 2007 18:39

Good article.

Of course, you never have a doctor claiming you might change your mind later if you are in your early 20's and trying to get pregnant as he refuses to give you prenatal vitamins. Yeah, yeah, the younger the better before your eggs rot and all that, but if you don't want 'em, you don't want 'em. People change, but why is it assumed ( Read more... )

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waterdawg July 28 2007, 03:22:19 UTC

Because we use our *brains* not our hormones?

Ugh.... I can go on for about - hum 30 years worth now....

Not a good thing.... However, male hormones that don't want kids know what they want.... Estrogen doesn't?

Nevermind - singing to the choir

Childfree - Response jnapier July 28 2007, 13:31:51 UTC

First off, I enjoy the Rubber Chicken...you are gonna have to do better with your threats.

Secondly, I do agree with you here. I think that what is lacking is Creativity. It takes Creativeness to come up with options. Only people that deal in absolutes only have two options at best.

Ok its not a bingo...but maybe close enough?

Flyinfox_SATX

Re: Childfree - Response drankthetea July 29 2007, 01:06:58 UTC

What creative options are you talking about? Having kids or not is an absolute. Either you breed or you don't. Parenthood is something different. I have no interest in either.

Re: Childfree - Response jnapier July 29 2007, 12:05:18 UTC

I would like to believe that this is true but with all of the science that is out there where you can fertilize eggs outside of the womb and re-implant them, that absolute gets greyer and greyer.

Granted...there is the economics of everything but it still an option. It all depends on one's situation

Flyinfox_SATX

Re: Childfree - Response drankthetea July 29 2007, 16:53:09 UTC

Oh, I get it! You are talking about the literal getting knocked up and popping a sprog! Yeah, if you want to parent, there are ways around that if it must be of your own blood. That would solve the issue for those who want to have kids of their own but don't want to go through pregnancy and that. My bitching was related to those of us who don't want to do eithe. For us, there are no options other than to get fixed or live in fear. And few doctors are willing to do fix us. I'm almost 33 and no doctor is willing to spay me because I'm too young to know what I want. Yet those same doctors would likely not tell me that if I were going in for fertility treatments.

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caladon July 29 2007, 04:17:26 UTC

I don't believe anybody should get married or have children until they are 30 because people need time to live and find out who they are and what they want out of life. People change a lot in their 20s. With that in mind, it seems like a bad idea to permanently eliminate options too soon.

Giving them back would make things much simpler.

I find it distressing is that it's usually the more intelligent people who are opposed to breeding. Doesn't give us much hope as a species.

33shadow August 13 2007, 17:51:10 UTC

Well, at least with me and my husband you have two intelligent (one borderline genius) people who do want children. In fact, we're pregnant with our first. We're doing our part to continue providing the world with intelligence. :)

caladon August 13 2007, 19:24:01 UTC

Best of luck with that. Genetics helps, but the children will still be raised in a world of public schools that don't have enough teachers, classmates who pick on the smart kids, and television that makes it's viewers dumber.

Don't let my pessimism lead you to believe I'm being sarcastic. I really do mean it. Best of luck. It's a challenging world, but trying your best is much better than to do nothing.

33shadow August 14 2007, 17:21:17 UTC

Yes, I agree about the state of public schools. However, they are not the only option, and we plan on restricting TV anyway. We will instead encourage games like Bridge, chess, and other games that require intelligence, and we already have very intelligent conversations just between us. I think our kids will have a better-than-average chance to bring some more intelligence to the world. :D

33shadow August 13 2007, 17:54:59 UTC

"Five years after a tubal, you can adopt. Five years after birthing, you can't give it back."

I agree wholeheartedly. I had some friends of a friend who had been married about seven years and were happily childless. They enjoyed each other's company so much, they didn't want anything to interfere with it.

Having said that, I do think for sure age 20 is way too young to make such a permanent decision when there are other extremely viable, less permanent options out there. I'd even venture to say age 25, since I personally changed so much between then and now. But then again, I never changed my mind about wanting to bear children...