QUEER:

[drip]

Look, I can't be arsed working out how to do a cut, but I got sucked into this debate on gay culture and if it exists. Some of this won't make sense out of context, but let me know if you (NIAMH) think it makes any sense

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ufo's and sex parties.

[octoberxswimmer]

this made a lot of sense. sterotypes are grand narratives that help people position themselves in the world. which is sometimes a good thing, but can turn dangerous when one constructs and identity based on these models. i understand what you are saying, but these gay narratives are polluting the humanity of the individual person. i don't define myself as a gay man, i don't introduce myself as queer. it does hold a low priority in my "image," but it certainly has affected my identity and how i relate to myself and the rest of the external world. i may not be stereotypically gay, and when people do find out my sexual orientation, i am happy that i can be a model that is not perpetuated in film and television

[stevie69p]

Interesting read.
I've never found myself aligned with most of the stereotypes of what 'gay' is seemingly about. I came out late (31) and for a few years subconsciously tried to fit in on the scene. It didn't work. I rarely go out on the scene now. I don't feel the need to. I think the problem actually has a lot to do with sex itself. As a gay man we have fewer opportunities in the course of normal everyday life to pick up someone for a bit of random lust, short of going on gaydar or into a gay bar, so we are somehow drawn to those areas when we want a bit of fun. Once in a relationship, we can find the need to be on the scene at all to be far less. I like being off scene. I can be far more myself in terms of what interests me, as opposed to having to chat about Kylie or shoes. Although I do have a friend who talks about little else, but has redeeming qualities.

I thought I had a point to make, but perhaps not....!