Title: "Love Me for My Mind": Week 10 LJ Idol Community

[drippedonpaper]

I am the worst child my mother ever birthed (and that's saying something because there are seven of us.) But seriously, if my parents knew some of the things I did when I was growing up, they'd probably try to get custody of my own children, just to keep them safe from a corrupting influence like me

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[mstrobel]

You got away with it!! I was so glad to read that because I was literally on the edge of my seat ;-)

I can't imagine such a strict upbringing, by the way. Fascinating to read this :)

[drippedonpaper]

I'm glad to know my attempt as suspenseful writing worked then:)

I WAS raised in a rather odd way. I've only realized how odd after I grew up.

Thanks for your kind words!

[alephz]

Good on you for the sneakery! No childhood is complete without tasting at least one forbidden fruit absent parental knowledge/approval!

And, man, there are so many worse tapes to have seen in the first place. tNG FTW.

[drippedonpaper]

TNG is great:) Why do series ever have to end? At least they still write books about it.

Oh, I tried a few other forbidden fruits;) but this is one I repeated over and over and (still) never got caught.

Yes, TNG is rather tame. I think that is part of what I want to do differently from my parents. If you forbid almost everything, your children are bound to try some of it someday and decide your judgment must be skewed on EVERYTHING since that "forbidden show" (etc) are not REALLY that bad. I think being really, really strict can backfire.

[alephz]

Well, hey. Tame is a relative measure, come down to it. If it's equally as forbidden as hardcore pornography and "Texas Chainsaw Massacre", then the thrill is there.

I think you're right RE: strictness. It just tends not to end well most of the times I've seen it.

[pixiebelle]

I almost wrote something similar...but what I did behind my parents back were not so innocent. I can barely admit them to myself sometimes :-p

[drippedonpaper]

We live and learn.

Does it help to know that our brains are not fully developed until we are in our twenties, especially the parts that deal with remembering to think about consequences? (that has helped me forgive myself a few things.)

::Hugs:: You turned out just fine anyways. We're all in a process of becoming.

Funny we both had similar ideas! Took me awhile to come up with something...

[drippedonpaper]

Good thing:) Mom still throws the past in my face, she doesn't need anymore ammunition!

Thanks for your kind words!:)

[myscribbles]

I liked this a lot, I liked the easy style you used, drawing the reader in like a friend. Allowing us to share a small part of your life.

Also this

(yes, I kid you not, my mother would cover the screen and tell us to close our eyes if a couple began to kiss.)

Although not as strict, I had a memorable argument with my husband on watching an officer and a gentleman, and the love scene came on, and I asked if this was an uncut copy as this wasn't in the original film, to which my husband insisted it was. Two hours and several arguments later I found out that when my mum taped films for me (including pretty woman when I was 16) she would sit and watch it and pause the recorder at the sex scenes :P

[drippedonpaper]

And see...hm. I am not in favor of small children watching porn (real porn) obviously, but she would block ANY kissing. That is just plain unnatural, I think. My parents obsess about physical affection, they want all their kids to have "their first kiss at the altar" (and oh man, one of my sisters is just the hero because she didn't even kiss before marriage. It was announced at her wedding and my mom still reminds me of how wonderful that she "kept herself pure.")

But, I think it's...physical affection (again, not the explicit but SOME affection) is NATURAL for kids to see. It's not something to be feared or something shameful. It's part of life, enjoyable.

I had to laugh though, that you had no idea your movies were edited:) THAT must have been odd, to wonder what other memories of movies you had that may not be a true picture of the show:)

I looove "Pretty Women" by the way. I know it's unrealistic but parts of it are SO sweet.

[myscribbles]

oh yes seriously!! I still find myself watching films and seeing uncut bits and going wow :P

But yes like you I believe it is healthy for kids to see physical affection, I frequently cuddle with my husband in front of my little boy (although he usualy tries to wrestle me away from his daddy) But then you seen from my disco sticks post that I'm not the best role model :P