Venting session

[dudestr013]

So...I just broke up with my Bf of a year and a half and I'm miserable to say the least. He was the best guy in the world, treated me like gold, took care of me, but had such trust issues he drove me crazy. He was cheated on in literally every other relationship so I was understanding to a point. I'm not a cheater and he knew that, but he hacked

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[trunks_07]

I'm so sorry Josh :(
Honestly, I think this is something that could be worked out but he has to be willing to see where he's at fault and make some changes of his own. Bryce and I had a TON of problems up until probably a year or even six months ago. It takes a lot of time and effort to work through it all but you can have a relationship that is nothing but honest and loving. I understand that you're under a lot of pressure with med school, so maybe it won't work out right now but there's always the future. I don't know if that was very helpful and it was full of rambling but here's my main point - you deserve love and happiness and I know you can achieve that if both of you are willing to communicate and work out the problems.

[curiedawg]

woah, sorry bud, calling you tonight.

[gingerygoodness]

I've been there to a point and right now, it feels hopeless and that's okay.

Maybe you're just not supposed to be in a relationship at all right now, and that's okay. Med school is hard and is going to take up a lot of time and if things don't wind up working out with your bf, then do you really want to spend what precious down time you have maintaining a relationship?

And maybe you just need to grow and at times, personal growth is stifled by a relationship, even if it is with the love of your life.

Good luck, you're an awesome person and don't worry about the distant future right now. Right now, you have no control over this distant future, so just be right here and now and maybe single. You'll be okay, it's hard at times, but it'll be alright :)

[gingerygoodness]

oh and also, hacking into your e-mails? not cool and a beyond good reason to break up with someone.

[greenmonsterfan]

awww, Josh! You don't need to have extra stress when you're in med school... I understand that part!! If you end up taking a long hiatus from relationships, that can be the best thing for you... you'll just have to tell yourself NOT to settle for anybody- you deserve to run into the perfect guy who you can be with in a really loving and simple relationship- not a complex relationship overrun with trust issues.

And I've been cheated on before.. I was with someone who was a total ladies' man (yeah, you know who this was haha) and had been cheated on.... it really hurt, but I got over it for my next relationship, so I don't know why your boyfriend couldn't get over his trust issues. I knew that I had to throw all my trust into the one I loved if, in my heart, I knew they deserved all that trust.... and I know you deserve that trust from your boyfriend so I hope that either he figures out his issues or you move on and take care of yourself now- get through med school, and find a hottie when you've had a break from relationships... :D