I just don't understand women

[dumalvov]

Can someone fucking explain to me why I apparently need to degrade myself to some kind of drooling cro-magnum in order to talk to girls?

I'll be honest. I haven't had a lot of luck with girls in my life. I'm 24 years old and I have yet to have sex with a girl. Needless to say, I am not happy about this and recently have decided to take action.

Comments

[anonymous]

As far as I've experienced, it's not about being an asshole vs. not, it's about being assertive vs. not.

A lot of "nice guys", as you'd call them, do everything they can to try to entice people/girls/ladies into asking them to do something. I think I kind of know how this goes, because I did the same for a while.

What you need to do is sack up. Whether you are a nice guy or an asshole, in the current position of mainstream society, it is still up to you to make the first move.

It's still up to you, but your lack of success in the sexual department is not due to your demeanor. It's due to you dressing and acting as hard as you can to get a girl, but not actually wanting to make a move yourself. From what I can tell from girls/psychology/loveline, the reason that "assholes" win is because they [/i]actually ask the girls out instead of the incessant attempts to make the girl fall head over heels for them without actually initiating anytinhing.

[dumalvov]

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As far as I've experienced, it's not about being an asshole vs. not, it's about being assertive vs. not.
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Sorry, but in my experience this is bunk. "Assertiveness" is basically a euphemism for "coerciveness," which, let's face it, is basically yet another "asshole" trait. Forcing girls to like you, yeah, that's real nice.

Besides that, when I try to be direct, my intelligence tends to shine through. Which, apparently, girls don't seem to like. It's pretty depressing actually. I go to the University bar--on campus, mind you!!--and yet the mental caliber of the girls there is, frankly, mediocre. Ever try to start a conversation on something meaningful with a girl? Don't bother.

I guess they'd rather talk about inane shit like how "awesome" that concert was last night or whatever.

[dumalvov]

Sorry for the above, that might have come off a bit harsh, I guess I was just frustrated

[anonymous]

Um, no

[dumalvov]

If she didn't want people to read it, why would she put it on the internet?

Anyways, one last thought on this before I go to bed. I just don't understand what I have to do at this point. Can someone please give me some suggestions?

I've paid my dues. I've done just as much--probably quite a bit more--than most to try to win the interest of the fairer sex. But all I see are people who have done so much less achieving so much more. You can't imagine how frustrating that is. All it is is I feel I deserve a girlfriend by now.