... on the merits of airing my issues with Ashley, or just keeping mum on the whole topic. Then this gem was recently shared with me:
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Nothing to do with Marva.. more to do with you.hopscotchn9January 24 2010, 20:44:09 UTC
Yup I am amused that you are going to have a child. I am amused that you can't take care of the one child that you have, how are you going to take care of another baby and the one you can't take care of now.
Second.. why are you putting my journal in your journal. You again are trying to start something with me.. whatever..
Re: Nothing to do with Marva.. more to do with you.ed209uardoJanuary 24 2010, 21:12:37 UTC
... Your stance is that I can't take care of Theo?
... Have I ever complained to you that I couldn't afford furnishings, that Theo didn't have a place to stay with me?
... Have I ever told you that I didn't have the money for clothes for Theo to go to school?
... Have I ever complained to you that money is so tight, that you should pay me for Theo's food or travel?
... Did I not spend months putting Theo's need to see you above my issues with you, when it would have been easier for me to use your lack of a license as an excuse to not let him see you?
... I am by no means anywhere near close to being a perfect parent, but I love Theo, and I do try. If my opinion mattered at all to you, I'd mention something positive about you as Theo's mom, but I have very little incentive to do so...
... Thank you for clarifying that it was me you were making fun of, not Marva. Shouldn't make me feel better, but it does...
I did what I had to do to make sure that my son was taken care of. I didn't ask you to come to my house with him. I would have worked it out. Never doubt that. You have a hard time taking care of yourself. Your job history proves that beyond anything else. WOOT.. You took care of your son for a few months. Good Job Ed!!! There is your pat on the back.
But how about all of the years that you sat on the couch in your underwear watching Buffy. How about all the years that you couldn't clean up after yourself much less your child. How about all the years that You couldn't do shit but feel sorry for yourself and have me take care of you and our child.
Yeah.. I find it funny that you are having another child when day after day you prove that you are nothing but a child with big dreams and no ambition.
Keep talking your shit, where ever the hell you want to. In the end you are still a douch bag.
... It was approximately 53.5 months from our wedding to our separation. I was employed for at least 43.5 months during that time...
... Years would be more than a slight exaggeration...
... Should you've had to endure that, with the worst of it during the end of 2005/beginning of 2006? Probably not. There only so many times I can apologize. Won't change your opinion of me...
... You also seem to have forgotten, in the year leading up to our separation (if not longer), how often you weren't there. I probably rarely (if ever) complained, and I did my best to make sure Theo didn't suffer for it...
... Maybe I was a horrible husband, but don't mistake that for being a horrible parent. I've tried not to...
Now I am done with this shit.. you can go back to bashing me in places that I can't see. Cowardy and Whimpy like you are. Look for people who will tell you that you are the victim with out knowing what the hell is going on.
Ed, hopefully she won't respond to that, because it just doesn't matter. You have full documentation of interactions and facts. Since you are being forced to go back to court because of numerous court order violations, actual evidence is what is going to matter. So is your documented willingness to accommodate things like her not having a license or working car, her work schedule, her inability to purchase uniforms when she said she would...things like that. I realize it will take a little while to get a court date, but at least by then, if she keeps doing what she's doing, you'll have a plethora of documented violations.
Or, maybe, she'll just work with you for Theo's benefit instead, and make all of that completely unnecessary. Now that you're the one without a working vehicle, maybe she'll help more with transportation, not just because you did it for her, but because it is much safer for Theo.
Now THAT would make sense, and help you two work toward a mutually beneficial relationship.
I am more than willing to work with him on some things. He is more than welcome to bring Theo to my house on Wednesday night. I am willing to meet him half way on Friday and Sundays. It is his responsibilty to get Theo to school on Thursday if he spends the night with you guys.
I bought the uniforms when we agreed that I would as it was silly to have that many uniforms. I do have a work schedule that is set so that I can pick Theo up on the nights that are mine.
I was willing to work with a lot of things. Bashing me in public forms and demanding me to do things that are not in the aggreement are not the way to go about things. I was willing to take a cab to where ever I needed to go and did. I signed the title agreement for the car but the bottom line is that Eds car or his money issues are not my issue. Nor are mine his. I have nothing bad to say about you, I don't know you. I do know my soon to be ex husband and his ways.
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Second.. why are you putting my journal in your journal. You again are trying to start something with me.. whatever..
Douch Bag of the day, again..
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... Have I ever complained to you that I couldn't afford furnishings, that Theo didn't have a place to stay with me?
... Have I ever told you that I didn't have the money for clothes for Theo to go to school?
... Have I ever complained to you that money is so tight, that you should pay me for Theo's food or travel?
... Did I not spend months putting Theo's need to see you above my issues with you, when it would have been easier for me to use your lack of a license as an excuse to not let him see you?
... I am by no means anywhere near close to being a perfect parent, but I love Theo, and I do try. If my opinion mattered at all to you, I'd mention something positive about you as Theo's mom, but I have very little incentive to do so...
... Thank you for clarifying that it was me you were making fun of, not Marva. Shouldn't make me feel better, but it does...
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But how about all of the years that you sat on the couch in your underwear watching Buffy. How about all the years that you couldn't clean up after yourself much less your child. How about all the years that You couldn't do shit but feel sorry for yourself and have me take care of you and our child.
Yeah.. I find it funny that you are having another child when day after day you prove that you are nothing but a child with big dreams and no ambition.
Keep talking your shit, where ever the hell you want to. In the end you are still a douch bag.
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... Years would be more than a slight exaggeration...
... Should you've had to endure that, with the worst of it during the end of 2005/beginning of 2006? Probably not. There only so many times I can apologize. Won't change your opinion of me...
... You also seem to have forgotten, in the year leading up to our separation (if not longer), how often you weren't there. I probably rarely (if ever) complained, and I did my best to make sure Theo didn't suffer for it...
... Maybe I was a horrible husband, but don't mistake that for being a horrible parent. I've tried not to...
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Or, maybe, she'll just work with you for Theo's benefit instead, and make all of that completely unnecessary. Now that you're the one without a working vehicle, maybe she'll help more with transportation, not just because you did it for her, but because it is much safer for Theo.
Now THAT would make sense, and help you two work toward a mutually beneficial relationship.
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I bought the uniforms when we agreed that I would as it was silly to have that many uniforms. I do have a work schedule that is set so that I can pick Theo up on the nights that are mine.
I was willing to work with a lot of things. Bashing me in public forms and demanding me to do things that are not in the aggreement are not the way to go about things. I was willing to take a cab to where ever I needed to go and did. I signed the title agreement for the car but the bottom line is that Eds car or his money issues are not my issue. Nor are mine his.
I have nothing bad to say about you, I don't know you. I do know my soon to be ex husband and his ways.
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