Very sick 12-year-old girl

[tonight_at_ten]

A few years back, when I was anorexic, I posted here about my 8-year-old niece who I suspected was developing abnormal concerns and habits around eating. (would be so lovely if anyone recalls this, although of course it was a while ago

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[rifumi]

All I can think of: Some years ago they tried this therapy in Sweden on suicidal people. They took them on a long hiking/survival trip, where they had to fish, collect berries etc. to have enough to eat, and every night build a shelter and a fire to sleep by.

Forced physically closer to concrete survival, their suicidal ideation did start to vane. It was thought that their natural survival instincts kicked in, and that they felt needed because there was something concrete to do every day and they saw the results of their work benefiting everyone. Plus of course nature being an environment of lot less stimuli and time to reflect on things than a busy city, and the sheer physical exercise giving a lot of benefits.

[rererepetition]

I think I agree with this. Though I've had some pretty bad times and been pretty depressed when I was older, I can't really remember ever being quite as depressed as I was when I was 13 or 14.

[knicknatt]

Same here.

[crunkie]

I'm so sorry about your niece. Several of us have said something about how awful it is to be twelve: I think people this age have just begun to have adult-like thoughts and feelings, but lack any context in which to place them. So noted, it could be meaningless for someone in your niece's position, but can you make her aware of all the awesome things she can anticipate as she grows? Driving, going to high school and university, finding an academic/etc passion, parties, adventures, deciding on an occupation? I don't know about you, but my eating disorder faded largely because other things became more interesting and important.

As for the family at large, I suppose you'll have to ask whether they want to offload steam, receive some insight and comfort, or be distracted for a while. Best wishes for you and yours.

[cat_the2nd]

I remember your post. I'm so sorry that your fears around her abnormal eating habits/concerns have been realised and she is now really unwell. It's so sad when childhood is robbed in this way. I really don't know what to advise, but I wanted to reach out. I hope she gets the help she needs and this doesn't steal anymore of her life than it has already. <3

[detre_delicat]

I really have never experienced this with a family member, but my heart goes out to you and everyone in the family and particularly your niece.

My disorder only began when I was 12, and I remember my state of mind. It's heartbreaking to know that a child can feel that way and experience the anguish that accompanies eds.

I really wish I could do something to help.