Comments | eethree: OH MY GOD! I'M POSTING!

eethree

OH MY GOD! I'M POSTING!

Jan 18, 2005 13:55

so.. in my long standing tradition of never ever posting...
unless I have a whopper of a post, in which case I post some 3 page long rant or some such....

without further fanfare...

( I've delegated a cut to serve as my punching bag. Go on.. punch it. )

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eethree January 18 2005, 19:55:13 UTC

update to this...

on a phone conversation just now.. minutes after posting...

I found out.... that the rapist.. didnt rape her.. becuase she was in love with him at the time.

which means that she was in love with another man a year and a half ago... 6 months into our relationship.. and before we concieved our son.

heartofsilver January 18 2005, 20:55:26 UTC

Drama.

Sounds like you both are locked into a cycle of various forms of abuse and lies.

So you have all this info and experiances which are screaming something needs to be changed...

What are you going to do about it?

eethree January 19 2005, 03:14:54 UTC

well seeing as.... I've been seeing a counsellor for over a year... and she refuses to see one... I guess we know who is willing to work for this relationship ( ... )

heartofsilver January 19 2005, 04:46:31 UTC

Excellent, you have a plan. I am proud of you Nicky (not that it really matters, I know).

If you need any help at all, let me know.

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evilmannequine January 18 2005, 20:55:37 UTC

my god... I am so sorry all of this is happening.

I have faith in you that you will be able to overcome all of this.

I realize that you love her, but I think you also realize that you need to be away from her. for good. and you need to have your son as much as possible. it dosent sound like she is capable of being a good parent.

If you die, your son will be lost with her.

dont die.

Im so sorry this is happening.

eethree January 19 2005, 03:16:37 UTC

she is a loving parent.... I will never deny that

she makes a great babysitter... one of the best.

but she cannot be a parent
she needs to put herself first at this point in her life... and she cant do that if she has a child. that simple... but she refuses to listen to that logic

and thanks hun... for your faith.. cause right now thats prehaps the one thing I am lacking in myself.

naylbunnie January 18 2005, 22:33:23 UTC

fight her for custody, and get far far away from the crazy bitch.
it sounds hard, and it might be hard, but it's the only thing you CAN do.
i was in a very bad relationship with erica's father, and i had to pull myself away from it and look at it from the outside before i realized what an asshat he was. at least you have viable proof. take it to court with you. show that she is an unfit mother.
i don't know what else to say. i'm apalled that someone would do that, knowing they have a child and such responsibility. though i guess i shouldnt be, when trent proved that drugs and other things were more important than erica.
*hugs* and no dying. or, i'll die too and haunt you in the shower in your next reincarnation...
(c'mon...a ghost in the shower turning your hot water off and putting fun stuff in the shampoo? no one wants that.)

eethree January 19 2005, 03:19:24 UTC

you know first hand....

that when a person has a child... they mentally age beyond their current years. especialy us young parents.

I went from 23... to 33.. according to those who are close to me.
and though she is 20 years..... she was very much a 16 year old up untill the birth... and only progressed to 20. she.... is not ready for a child.

I argued for an abortion. not for my sake, though I knew I wasnt ready. But I knew she was even less ready.. but she wouldnt listen.

I have a 90% sure feeling that.. she lied to me about taking her birth control pills just so she would get pregnant.... why she did that.. I dont think I will ever know.

djdarq January 19 2005, 00:42:55 UTC

I am *Speechless* Oh man. I feel really damn bad for you. I thought I went through hell and torment but what you went through is nothing at all. If you ever need someone to talk to, please call us. Anytime. Miss you to bits as well. Damn, the last time I talked to you was at Darkrave and before that was like three years ago. You and I = Coffee or Beer really soon:-)
:::BIG HUGE HUGS:::

Edit... djdarq January 19 2005, 00:53:29 UTC

*I thought I went through hell and torment but what you went through is nothing at all.

What I really meant to say because I am so damn tired.. So sorry..

I thought I went through hell and torment but what you went through is bloody fucking HARDCORE!!
I hope that makes sense now. Enough of me rambling,
Sleepy time for me Nick.
::Hugs::

Re: Edit... eethree January 19 2005, 03:09:57 UTC

heh.. I get the idea man... I know what you mean... about being tired too. lol

read my reply above this.... I am still trying to admit and drag up shit that I just.. dont want to see.

I burried who I was, who I am... to be with her.. and now I need to dig myself out of this shithole.. one piece of garbage at a time.

things are worse.. far worse.. than I am able to admit, and a universe worse than I told you and your lil woman that Darkrave we spent chatting by the bus stop.

but yeah... we need to get together... majorly. the way we used to 2 years ago. I'll see what I can arrange in terms of money (she has it all)... and transportation (I'm in the middle of scarborough again)

lirablack January 20 2005, 05:28:18 UTC

Wow... I really don't know what to say about all of this.

All I can do is hope everything works out and all is well in the end for you and the baby.