For those somehow not yet aware, I'm dating Mel (aka PurpleKecleon), and have been for some two and a half years. She is also married, and has been for about the same amount of time
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We got this for a while. It's particularly amusing when we were all living together, because Lauren would say something like "No, I manage to keep both of them in the dark when their rooms are right next to each other."
Nowadays I tend to avoid this by deliberately using constructions like "my girlfriend's boyfriend".
I also have to disambiguate between "my boyfriend" and "my boyfriend who is also dating my girlfriend", but that's entirely a different thing.
I bust out the "my girlfriend's husband" when appropriate, but we don't interact that much so that isn't very often. I guess it doesn't help that everyone regards me as subordinate, because clearly marriage is 'superior' to dating.
Sounds like a great opportunity to attach modifiers all over the place. "My mono boyfriend", "my coboyfriend", etc.
1. Everyone who has asked this question-indeed, nearly everyone who knows at all-is a furry or at least tangentially involved with the furry community. A community where relationships can only safely be represented as directed graphs, and in which some people consider fellatio to be a friendly greeting.
I've had one of my roommates ask whether the husband knows, during a period where he himself was having regular weekly encounters with some other guy with his boyfriend's blessing2. I have never in my life heard of an infidelitous relationship being referred to as "boyfriend + girlfriend" or "dating", the terms I always use to refer to Mel
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1. Everyone who has asked this question-indeed, nearly everyone who knows at all-is a furry or at least tangentially involved with the furry community. A community where relationships can only safely be represented as directed graphs, and in which some people consider fellatio to be a friendly greeting.
I get this question all the time from other academics in a Gender Studies department. We don't (...professionally) use fellatio as a greeting, but you'd think we'd be on top of this shit. Nope! I've taken to just appending "everyone knows" to the end of discussions about my relationships so that I don't have to deal with the inevitable question. Which is lazy, but, sometimes I'm lazy.
it's like the involvement of marriage forces everyone's perspective into some sacred 50s view of nuclear families
This. I have a good friend (female) who is married to a man whose health has deteriorated over the years they've been married, to the point where sex is no longer a part of their life together, and thus she pursues sexual relationships with other people. With his blessing. And she gets asked "Does he know?" by people who are propositioning her. I could say I don't understand the worship of marriage in our culture (and practically every other 'civilized' one), but that becomes a whole different issue.
I'd just like to see the government remove its restrictions on ALL kinds of marriage. As long as everyone's consenting adults I don't see why any number of people of any genders and orientations shouldn't be able to enter into any kind of partnership they want to.
If anything this has made marriage seem far less.. weighty. 8) At this point I think my only interest in marriage is that everyone else regards it as a stronger bond.
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Nowadays I tend to avoid this by deliberately using constructions like "my girlfriend's boyfriend".
I also have to disambiguate between "my boyfriend" and "my boyfriend who is also dating my girlfriend", but that's entirely a different thing.
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Sounds like a great opportunity to attach modifiers all over the place. "My mono boyfriend", "my coboyfriend", etc.
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Further amusement can be derived from Jarrod's girlfriend (the one that isn't also mine) dating another guy named Jared.
For some reason people think this is complicated. I probably should break out the common lisp program I used to diagram this thing more often.
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1. Everyone who has asked this question-indeed, nearly everyone who knows at all-is a furry or at least tangentially involved with the furry community. A community where relationships can only safely be represented as directed graphs, and in which some people consider fellatio to be a friendly greeting.
I've had one of my roommates ask whether the husband knows, during a period where he himself was having regular weekly encounters with some other guy with his boyfriend's blessing2. I have never in my life heard of an infidelitous relationship being referred to as "boyfriend + girlfriend" or "dating", the terms I always use to refer to Mel ( ... )
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I get this question all the time from other academics in a Gender Studies department. We don't (...professionally) use fellatio as a greeting, but you'd think we'd be on top of this shit. Nope! I've taken to just appending "everyone knows" to the end of discussions about my relationships so that I don't have to deal with the inevitable question. Which is lazy, but, sometimes I'm lazy.
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This. I have a good friend (female) who is married to a man whose health has deteriorated over the years they've been married, to the point where sex is no longer a part of their life together, and thus she pursues sexual relationships with other people. With his blessing. And she gets asked "Does he know?" by people who are propositioning her.
I could say I don't understand the worship of marriage in our culture (and practically every other 'civilized' one), but that becomes a whole different issue.
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1. Taxes.
2. Forms.
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