I know, and we've "said" that to ourselves all along, yet somehow the ideas creep in... And next thing we knew, I was watching a warped, real life "father-of-the-brride" scenario.... We've backed up & are re-thinking it. I was just refecting on things.
Invite who you want. If you are trying to keep things small and low-key, you keep it small and low-key. I still think that weddings are for the bride and groom only, not their families or their friends or anyone else.
The bottom line is: it's YOUR wedding, do what you want afterwards. Those of us who aren't invited because you want to keep it small will toast you afterwards whenever we see the two of you together.
I appreciate it, and know that most everyone would understand, but its also just as easy for us to start wanting everyone too. The original 30 person idea was simply based on the idea off, where do you draw the line, and honestly, the clearest, easiest line, was simply immediate family... once you add to that, it starts getting tougher to define. While this was simply me thinking out loud, It was based on my watching a wedding about me & Wendy, slowly become this big stressful headache. I just wanted her to look back on this time with fond memories, and I was seeing that change for the worst.
BTW, hope you & Leslie are doing well, and your liking TX.
Right now, the plan is for her to relax, and meditate on what she wants, and if it takes her 4 months to decide, so be it. I don't have any doubts that my true friends would support anything we decide, And as you well know, I count yoou amongst the very few real, true, lifelong friends... there are few like you!
I really hope you are doing well. I have been so busy & wrapped up in my own stresses, that I haven't had a chance to check on you. Wendy said she saw something on f/b about you being un-employeed, I hope that's not the case... you know I wish you only the best! Let me know if you need anything!
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The bottom line is: it's YOUR wedding, do what you want afterwards. Those of us who aren't invited because you want to keep it small will toast you afterwards whenever we see the two of you together.
cheers,
Phil
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BTW, hope you & Leslie are doing well, and your liking TX.
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Do what you need to. Don't make yourselves crazy or misereable, and use your money wisely. Hell, doing that is how I bought a house.
Seriously. Once you're married, come by, and I will sing and play whatever you wanted me to right in my den! :)
*love*
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I really hope you are doing well. I have been so busy & wrapped up in my own stresses, that I haven't had a chance to check on you. Wendy said she saw something on f/b about you being un-employeed, I hope that's not the case... you know I wish you only the best! Let me know if you need anything!
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