Comments | emmerick: clap you hands if you're gay/happy.

emmerick

clap you hands if you're gay/happy.

Mar 24, 2010 23:05

So my partner for the last 3+ years asked of me on Facebook to affirm his relationship to me. I did it, but only to not offend him. I'm second doubting it, not because of him... but because I'm not so sure with my first and last name (as is on facebook) anybody should know that much personal shit about me. I've never had a job where anyone could ( Read more... )

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tbass March 25 2010, 06:55:05 UTC

It's definitely hard. A couple girls at the shipyard found me on Myspace and found out I was gay when I worked there. They never told anyone, and didn't even tell me they knew until my last day.. but, if one of the guys had found it, it could have been a totally different scenario.

Now, I never hide it. That's one of the reasons I moved to Seattle and away from Bremerton.

emmerick March 25 2010, 07:59:50 UTC

Man, de ja vu. You know I've been there. Seattle or not, your line of work has ALOTTTTT to do with the people you deal with. Maybe I'm in the wrong line of work. Even SODO warehouses aren't dick-friendly. Still Seattle though....

BTW, good thing those chicks were cool, otherwise you could have felt the wrath my father enacted on me at the yard when he decided to "out" me there. fcukkkkk.

misanthropicsob March 25 2010, 06:58:19 UTC

I dunno. I can't really answer this honestly because my mind keeps getting caught on the times when I came out no matter whom it was too, and others where I was cautious.

But, FB...no brainer. FB has nothing to do with your work, and you can hide most of your information, including with whom you're in a relationship. I highly recommend this anyways.

emmerick March 25 2010, 08:01:45 UTC

I'd like to be "fuck it all," but unfortunately when my well being comes into play with a economy this bad, "punk" seems more and more like a punk-bitch thing to claim more then a punk-rock thing to.

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emmerick March 25 2010, 08:06:53 UTC

I don't buddy, I'm willing to throw down (and totally appreciate you having my back, that is invaluable) but I'm sick of getting fucked around by pretense before people ever get to know me. It's the type of shit that makes me lean back on violence, and it'll never get me anywhere if I buy into stereotypes this/that/or the other. I shouldn't care, but unless I avoid the trades/blue-collar/dick-swinging work I know best, I'll probably always deal with it. I dunno, it's one stack of suits I don't need against me in this papapapa poker gammmeee/?face? Ew.

ilovesynthsound March 25 2010, 08:15:01 UTC

just make your account info friends only and only invite or accept requests from people that wouldn't care or make a bid deal about it, it's what I do.

not to say I know exactly what anxiety you're going through over this, because I don't, but I feel the a similar way sometimes about my faith. There are a lot of negative connotation people have with the term "christianity", some deserved, others not so much, but that's not the point. Not to say I wouldn't get a job because of it, so the anxiety I have about it is only on a personal level.

But I'm not saying I'm ashamed of what I am, or what I believe, just how a lot of people perceive "me" to be before they even know me. People are dumb, they like to generalize and compartmentalize "us" and "them" type shit.

It's lame that you have to have such concerns, but like you're saying they are legitimate, IMO it'd be better to be safe than sorry. Most people probably won't care either way, but like with most things all it takes is one douchebag to ruin everything.

emmerick March 26 2010, 07:11:04 UTC

You've always been a solid kid Paul. You and I run congruent on backrounds so hardcore it scares me. I don't like to compare loss/hurt, but I identify with you because of those slights. I hope that's not sadistic in any way, but at least I can tell your concern isn't for self-gain. It's always been known (to those of our upbringing) when others compassion/good comes with self gain, their award was there and now. You've never cashed in on that fuckery. Thanks buddy, you're a beacon to me.

futureabsolute March 25 2010, 08:44:36 UTC

I wouldn't work for someone who cared.

emmerick March 26 2010, 07:16:58 UTC

Simply put, you're the most complex person to offer such simple one liners... I'm simply conf(used)ucked. I have so much love for you. I think you might be suprised what I've done for myself, maybe one of these days we'll cross paths and I can boast about fafsa and pretending I deserved the money, haha.