Update on the suckage

[eren_dari]

What a crappy day.  I was sitting in front of my pc, all set to spend a bit of time writing and catching up with Speesh on her Egypt trip and I got a call from my retarded sister.  We got into a huge fight about how my questioning my mother's doctor on the procedure he's planning is undermining my mother's confidence in him.  Am I supposed to give

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[missbucklebury]

Hey Jes,

You've done absolutely the right thing in making sure that both you and your mother are as informed as you can be. I'm not entirely sure what I'd be doing in your situation because you are doing what you can to protect your mum from what could be an unnecessarily invasive procedure, and I applaud that wholeheartedly. But I can see where it's causing problems, because ultimately it's your mothers decision and if she's scared then thats going to play a huge factor in the decision making process. Is there anyway you can get a second opinion, even from someone else at the same facility? That way you can confirm whether the procedure is really necessary, whilst at the same time boosting your mother's confidence in whats happening.

Whatever happens I'll be sending prayers and good vibes your way.

[rhapsody11]

Oh god no, don't give up. This whole diagnosis feels utterly contradictive to me and I can imagine that mom is scared like hell, since it already hit so close for her with her friend. What doesn't add up is a total removal of the breast and waiting for a month to do it (your sister should see that too). If the lymph nodes are threathened in any way, they don't wait a month. Get a second opinion, smack your sis, kick the docs ass mentally and sit down with mom to talk about it. Keeping a calm head only helps mom (and you are doing an awesome job with that) I stumbled upon this link:

http://www.breastcancer.org/dcis_ductal_carcinoma_in_situ.html

Hopefully it gives her some peace of mind, I think it explains it quite well and I think your sister should read it too instead of fighting with you. This seems like a neutral article and I think once your sis stops fighting you, mom will come around as well.

Oh and smooches from Kev and me.

[lamaudite]

All of the above. ::hugs:: You know I'm here if you need to talk.

[space_weavil]

I'm not at all knowledgeable on all the specifics but to me your thing of thinking of quality of life sounds like the sensible approach and I hope your family come round to seeing what you're saying makes sense. I can't imagine how frustrated you must be with it right now and all I can say is hang in there and stick to what you think in your heart's the right thing to do. You know we're all there rooting for you and I'm always willing to listen if you need someone to talk to, or to provide you with copious amounts of nonsense if you need a distraction.

[havetoist]

Ditto the above.

So sorry.

I really need to check on you peeps more often...