The Outline of a Post

[errantpenny]

I. I am sad, and embarrassed, because I have no friends to hang out with in San Francisco, and I have been here almost a year.

A. I need to remind myself of the reasons why this may be so.

1.  I am 42, shy, quirky, and picky, so it always takes me a long time to make friends.
2.  I didn't expect to make any good friends for at least a year.
3.  I

Comments

[pinkroo]

I love your conclusions--amen. If I lived in SF, I think we might be friends--I sound a lot like you.

[errantpenny]

I think we might be friends, too. The more I read your journal, the more I think we could bond very easily...

[myasma]

I can't wait to get home so I can come down and hang out with you one day.

[errantpenny]

That's so sweet of you to say!

I think we're both kind of shy, though, so we may have a hard time getting the conversation started. Then again, we're not really strangers, are we? :)

[gracegiver]

cool. I want someone to call me swell. What a compliment!

[errantpenny]

Yes, it was! I felt extremely flattered. You have to picture Rick, too, to get the full effect. He rocks a kind of 50's scientist look, so "swell" sounds just ducky coming from him!

[mallorys_camera]

You know, I've lived in Monterey for ten years & I don't think I've made one friend. Aquaintances, yes. But friendship the way I remember friendship from my twenties & thirties, a passionate outpouring of selves, a bond, a true kinship? No.

I hate to think this is a function of age but I suspect maybe it is. Sad.

[errantpenny]

I don't know if it's age so much as... life stage.

I think that people who have partners and children, like you, and maybe others of your acquaintance, have less time and energy to devote to friendships -- understandably so. By choosing never to have kids (and being perpetally single), I think I can still have the kind of bond with a friend that I had when I was younger, but the available pool of like-minded peers is shrinking.

[thewindrose]

I don't know if you'd be interested but I have a whole slew of interesting and amazing people on my friends list that are from that area. In fact a surprising amount are from there. If you get bored, you might want to sneak over and check out the journals of amarama,bebopmonkey, ericaceous, felicks, gordonzola, ilipodscrill, susanstinson, or wookiepocket. The only one I'm not to sure of is Susan - she might be from somewhere else.

But it sounds like you are headed in the right direction!

[errantpenny]

Oh, honey, I spend nearly as much time on your friends page as I spend on mine!

I love to read the posts of your SF friends (and I've been in the co-op where gordonzola and anarqueso work!) I'm shy about "approaching" them, though. And I think I might be too straitlaced for them, too.

Thanks for the suggestion, though!