Yesterday as I was settling into my desk at work, waiting for my first cup of coffee to finish brewing and scrolling through my Twitter feed, a call notification thrust its way onto the screen. The name of the caller shocked me a bit - it was my mother, who I have not really spoken to in about seven years, and who has not called me in all that time ( Read more... )

I was telling someone the other day that I don't like referring to Brandon as my "primary," though I imagine most people would say that he meets the definition of what a "primary" relationship would likely be. We cohabit, split the cost of bills, have made a commitment to be together in the forever sense. We love each other deeply, dearly, and ( Read more... )

In the 1960s, a researcher named Albert Mehrabian performed several studies concerning emotional communication between people, and how verbal, extraverbal, and nonverbal forms of communication can impact someone's interpretation of a message. One of his main conclusions was that in situations where someone is communicating about their feelings and ( Read more... )

Seventy miles from my house, Eagle Creek is ablaze. At last report, the flames covered 33,000 acres of land, and were zero percent contained. The fire has been raging for five days, likely set on Saturday night and in full force by Sunday morning. Yesterday the smell of burning wood was in the air; the smoke burned my nostrils a bit as I ( Read more... )

This is a post about silence. About being unable to find the words. About having nothing left to say ( Read more... )

This week has been, on balance of emotions, a pretty rough one for me; rougher than I have had in a long while, certainly multiple years. The reason for the roughness is that I have suffered two significant-feeling rejections in quick succession (the first was five days ago, the second was last night/this morning). I won't be getting into the ( Read more... )

Two months ago, Aaron popped back up in my life, and what started as an email exchange rapidly developed into daily communications via email, text message, and phone call. When we started incorporating the phone call in our communications, we would often talk for multiple hours, and I would listen to his soft voice as we talked about everything ( Read more... )

Though I lived in Colorado for the majority of the life I can remember, I was born in California, and lived in Wyoming for a couple of years between the two. I have no memory of living in California, though I have seen pictures and heard a few stories from my parents. According to my mother, the day my parents decided they wanted to move away from ( Read more... )

From the book More Than Two by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert:

"Cheating" is violating trust by breaking the rules of a relationship. If taking multiple lovers does not violate trust, then it's not cheating by definition. Betrayal, not sex, is cheating's defining element.I'm currently reading the above-named book and every few paragraphs ( Read more... )

Whenever I find that the world around me and all the people in it can't seem to move quite as fast as I want them to, especially in discussions, I can become very annoying. I know that's what it feels like to the unfortunate souls who just can't meet my pace, because eventually they reach a point of snapping under the perceived pressure and ( Read more... )