My advice, talk. Talk talk talk. Ask him every question you've ever wanted to. Say all the things that in 10 years you'll wish you'd said. Just, communicate.
I'm not sure how much pain he is in. My sister was the one who talked to him yesterday, and when I came home on my lunch break last night, she told me.
It's funny--when I thought he would be around forever I had a million things I wanted to ask him. Now that I may only have him for another year--I can't think of a damned thing to say.
I know. I sat next to my mom's bed and couldn't think of anything either. Now I think of all kinds of things, like how she could stand me sometimes when I was small. I was such a brat.
Maybe try to write him a letter (not to send) that might help you get your thoughts together. Or do write him a real letter and send it. A couple of years ago I wrote my dad a thank you letter. I wrote and thanked him for all the things I remembered that he did for me in my life, both big and small. Maybe you could do that. It might also help you think of things you need to talk about.
I just want to say again that I love your icon with the animals. It's just so sweet.
If anyone can beat this my dad can, but back in November--In November they said six months to a year was worst case scenario. 5 years was more likely, ten years would be a miracle. Now they just say six months to a year.
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Oh hell. Is he in pain?
My advice, talk. Talk talk talk. Ask him every question you've ever wanted to. Say all the things that in 10 years you'll wish you'd said. Just, communicate.
I'm so very sorry to hear this.
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It's funny--when I thought he would be around forever I had a million things I wanted to ask him. Now that I may only have him for another year--I can't think of a damned thing to say.
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Maybe try to write him a letter (not to send) that might help you get your thoughts together. Or do write him a real letter and send it. A couple of years ago I wrote my dad a thank you letter. I wrote and thanked him for all the things I remembered that he did for me in my life, both big and small. Maybe you could do that. It might also help you think of things you need to talk about.
I just want to say again that I love your icon with the animals. It's just so sweet.
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