On love

[evening_glory]

I just don't get it. Maybe it's not a concept my almost 16 year old brain is supposed to grasp, or maybe (as I very firmly believe), I've just watched too many Disney movies and read too many fairy tales. It just seems so...simple to me. Because I truely love all of my friends, from the bottom of my soul. I love my dad. I love my goddess. I love

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[etched_scarss]

I just adore the way you write, and I must admit that I have had the exact same feelings you just expressed. Love is tough at any age, but I do believe that everyone should openly express their love for each other. Love doesn't just mean kissing, hugging, and all that other good stuff; it means RESPECT! When you respect someone, the love and trust doesn't go away; that's the problem I think with crushes. When you have a crush on someone, you're lusting after them, you aren't trying to get to know the person completely. You have a preconception of the person, and well they seem to be better people inside our heads then in real life. So, with love, even when the person we care about disappoints us, since we respect them and have fully gotten to know them, we can forgive and understand that the one we love will make mistakes. Love is possible at any age, with anyone, under any circumstances. Yeah ummm, I'm rambling as well, but I just had to tell you wonderful writing, and I know how you feel. :)

[evening_glory]

...and you're telling me about MY wonderful writing?

This could be the start of a beautiful friendship:)

[purplicious]

I agree with what you said, I just think we've drawn different conclusions.

You love "Michael." You're not in love with him, and yes there's a difference.

But here comes society, looming over my shoulder, telling me that I have to have some extrordinary, out of this world emotional connection with this man in order to have anything worthwhile?Not to have anything worthwhile...but to base a marriage on. Why does our society have such a huge amount of divorces? Cause people jump on the first person they think they love who thinks they love them back. Why do so many second marriages last? Because people finally figure out their first marriage wasn't love. And they figure out what love is

[evening_glory]

Interesting thoughts. I think, gradually, I'm giving up the concept of "in love" though. I'm just beginning to think it's overrated.

[purplicious]

I don't think it matters what you call it, what's your name for the connection between husband and wife?

[evening_glory]

*slightly confused* marraige?

[thiscraziness]

caroline, i have been thinking the exact same thing lately... i dont know, i was watching JoA the other night when Joan thought she was supposed to have sex with adam and i was thinking, "what exactly is the point of a teenage relationship?" and i guess its just the first step to finding that one person who you are supposed to be with, but then i was like "well why do people have relationships in the first place? to reproduce i guess... and i guess its just a part of life that has always been" so the whole thing got me really confused and i was just like "i just have to accept the fact that this is the way it is

[evening_glory]

See, that's the thing. I think society's trying to trick us into thinking that we just can't be happy until we've found that ONE and only person who we're meant to be with forever. And if we're perpetually on this search for happiness, we keep wanting something that may not exist when we're perfectly happy and in love with other people. So we're spending all our time looking, assuming that there's something wrong with everyone else...
And maybe crushes are pointless, but we can't help them:)

[thiscraziness]

i dont think they're trying to trick us, it just seems that everything revolves around relationships, i mean, you know: everytime you see a commercial, or go to the movies, or watch tv, read a book, look at a magazine, go to the mall, there is always something that has to do with a relationship.... and i guess its because thats what everyone thinks they want... so i guesse maybe it is a societel (sp) thing but i think that poeple can be happy without a partner but i also do think that there is someone for everyone.

[purplicious]

Well I definietly agree that you can be happy without your one special soulmatey person. They just serve to make things even better.

[ex_medial473]

I wrote an answer so long I'll have to make it into an entry on my journal. Jeez. Stop asking rhetorical questions. I always want to answer. ;)

[evening_glory]

Lol yay! Well I can't wait to read your journal.

Do I ask rhetorical questions often? Or is THAT a rhetorical question?^_~ You're welcome to answer them any time I ask!

[cruzangirlco04]

I tell the people I love that I love them everyday. I think it's personal preference.

[evening_glory]

Well...you're just making sense now! Why would you go and do something like that?