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[casey1979]

i have this odd fear that this baby is going to take away from me in a negative way. like, keep me from being ME. i guess it's a struggle for moms to be their own selves apart from being just a mom. some women just want to be mom's but i dont want to just be a mom. someone asked me today how my baby was doing and i was like, "um, i dunno. i can't

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[rubyawake]

Forget your family and keep the earrings and tattoos. Your being a good mother won't be judged on your appearance...and if someone does judge it like that, they aren't worth it anyhow.

[casey1979]

yeah. i'm planning on getting more tats and piercings. i used to have shitloads of piercings but now it's down to 2. :( then again a positive thing about the baby is i'll get to prove myself as an adult finally to my family. i'm 27 and they still call me childish over silly things. goofy ass people. haha

[casey1979]

oh yeah i totally agree. hell, i'm going to get my hair done soon w/ blue or red and want to get my nose repierced. it's just for the last 8 years that's all i've heard from family members is assinine idiotic stupid stupid remarks about tattoos and piercings i'm just sick of it. bleh

[annagraham]

I completely understand what you're saying. When my husband and I got married six years ago it was with the agreement that we would not have children because we enjoyed our life together so much and didn't want anything to change. Well, after about four years we started talking about it and we (obviously) changed our minds. It was fortunate we came around at the same time

[sarakenobi]

you can have as many tattoos as you want and I'm thinking big earrings too as long as baby doens't pull on them, but that doesn't mean you can't wear them when you AREN'T around baby. because there will be times when you get to go out!!! I plan on more tattoos (since I only have one) after the baby is born and I see nothing wrong with that. sure your life is going to change, and its not all welcome, but really? I don't think it will be as bad as you are thinking. I think that baby does become part of your identity but not erase who you are, if you don't let it :)

[casey1979]

yeah i'm planning on getting more. and maybe even gaging my ears up a couple more notches (they're at 0's now) and getting my nose pierced again. i'm just overreacting haha. thanks :)

[sarakenobi]

OMG YOU CAN'T GET PIERCINGS YOU ARE GOING TO BE A MOM!!!!!!1111

[casey1979]

I know! what will it tell my child??? differences are to be cursed and spat upon! Not for the pure of heart! Kill all piercers KILL!!!

[crazzydeb]

I already feel like a part of me died when I had my son but I don't really miss it. Before becoming a mommy. I was pretty wild and wreckless and well to be honest kind of selfish. The one thing I do miss though is my social life. It's kind of nonexsistent now. I lost a lot of friends but gained a few too. It's been a big ajustment becoming a mommy. I just think it takes some getting used to. I tend to get depressed when I think about doing this all over again in about 6 months. I love my son but I can't wait till he's able to walk and talk hehehe. We'll be able to have more fun then. The sucks thing is though when he gets to that stage I'll be having a new baby again and I won't be able to enjoy it all so that kind of gets me down more than anything else. I would reccomend loosing the big hoops though only because if the baby grabs onto them and decides to yank your gonna have one bloody ear. I still have my tongue ring in though and I have two tatoos and plan on getting both of my kids names in another one after the second baby

[wite_wickah]

You are thinking and feeling the EXACT same way i am..
I hate it when people don't ask how I am anymore and they say "hows bub?" I just say.. "um.. I dunno, I can't see it.." i am sure they mean well and are being concerned and trying to get involved..but its like.. HELLO? I AM HERE TOO...
Also..I had hot lime green hair which i recently coloured to a deep red/purple colour and my sister goes "u look more motherly now".. The following week i dyed it bright purple.. It just annoys me that everyone expects me to change and turn into this full on mother figure and totally lose my identity..I don't wanna take all my piercings out and start dressing all motherly..i wanna stay how I look.. and be a mother. Of course i realise some things have to change..but i don't want to totally lose my identity.. argh!!
*hugs u tight*
I am so glad i am not the only one who thinks this way, i am sorry i wish i had the right words to tell you, but I don't..
xoxoxox

[casey1979]

my mom actually made me happy the other day. i went over there and she said "i found a bag of your hair dyes" and handed me a big bag of blue, pink and purple hair colors. i was like HELL YEAH MOTHA FUCKA i'm gonna do my hair again!!! it was dark brown with bright red tips (before that had bright blue tips) but i dyed it all brown b/c of the wedding (which i regret). i used to have 5 piercings besides the ones in my ears and now i'm only down to the ones in my ears. I think i'm going to do my hair after i get a job so i can get in touch w/ me again. arr

I HATE HATE HATE how everyone's giving me their maternity clotehs and they're ALL OLD LADY CLOTHES!!! i'm gonna try not to look like a teddybear wearing bows and shit pregnant lady. thank GOD i'm due in the winter so my preg clothes will be winter ones. when r u due?

[wite_wickah]

Bwahaha god that made me laugh so much..
"I was like HELL YEAH MOTHA FUCKA i'm gonna do my hair again!!!" bwahahaha.

I am due feb 21ish.. which here (australia) is gonna be SUMMER...ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.. I frikken HATE summer as it is so this ones going to suck majorly!!

[wite_wickah]

I have only 6 piercings now, but everyones saying my nipple ring will have to come out if i breast feed..and my navel ring may have to com eout if my belly button pops out.. but i could probably keep that one by putting in a plastic barbell.. will have to suss that one out! haha.

There are SO many UGLY maternity clothes here, like seriously WTF..Since when did women our age like wearing bright blue frumpy dresses with bright yellow ducks and bows on them? sad? MUCH! I have been looking at a few shopshere and have managed to find some awesome clothes, but they r SO expensive..because u know..all pregnant women are just made of money and all!!!