fuck you universe.

[fishbowlsoul]

>:(

that is all.

*edit 2:14am*
today is the first time gaib and i have ever yelled at each other. this was our first real fight ever, and it was over something stupid and frivilous. :( after a while though of just sitting beside each other being quiet and watching tv we calmed down. things seem ok now.
*sigh*

Comments

[wakeupkent]

hey, I belong to that universe you're trying to fuck!!

[fishbowlsoul]

it's been a very long, very bad day. i am thankful im about to go to sleep.

[wakeupkent]

good night, dear

[fireangel_999]

That is extremely common in your situation. I thought my husband and I were solid as a fucking mountain after my son died but after about 3 months we started having a lot of fights. It happens to pretty much everyone that is going through this type of grief. *hug*

[fishbowlsoul]

yea i was telling him last night that i was worried that we were going to fight so much that we'd break up. he assured me that that isn't going to happen but i've noticed (in myself at least) that getting annoyed and snappy has been getting easier and easier.

[fireangel_999]

Yeah that is normal when dealing with this type of grief. That is why I always urge people to go to couple's counseling to get help through this. Even people who think nothing can break them up find themselves having difficulties that they never imagined having, after a baby dies. I hope you two decide to do that. It could only help make things easier. It doesn't mean your relationship is broken but it may help prevent it from being broken in the future. It's really easy to let grief leak over into other areas of life and sneak up on you in places you wouldn't think it would.

[_ibmeubu]

I have found that most fights between people in love are about stupid things. But that's just my thought...I don't know you and Gaib well enough to say that about you....yet. =)

I'm working on getting to know you!

[rainydai]

It always seems that the big fights are over something stupid. That's how it is with me and Chris anyways. And then it is like nothing happend. We just calm down and almost forget. It's weird. Hope you feel better. That's kinda what marriage feels like.

[dartpoly]

1. this isn't the first time you've fought. it just feels like it because your relationship went through a major reboot recently.

2. of course the fight was over something irrelevant -- when it's grief/stress/repressed/not-immediately-solvable issues, it's never going to directly address the actual issue. (i.e. if you're stressed about "money", you'll fight about the remote control.)

[dartpoly]

(oh, the solution to #2 is usually to dig around and find the topic(s) that you're NOT talking about, and try to sneak up on them -- after you've both calmed down.)

[fishbowlsoul]

well we stayed up in bed last night for a long time (thats where we do most of our serious talking) and spilled the beans to each other about what's been going on in our respective heads. i've been bottling things up since mia died and it all came rushing out and he sort of did the same thing to a lesser degree. i guess we just have to learn to be more open with each other.