We will get married on the 12th (yikes!) and the forms they sent us still said 'marriage is a union between one man and one woman'. We signed the form but we will make a point on the day that this is no longer so, and that this has no place in our ceremony whatsoever.
Even though it doesn't concern me personally at all, it felt like a punch to the gut.
They read that out loud when I married my (opposite sex) spouse at the register office; I was shocked. It was (and is) such an ugly thing to arbitrarily put into what should be an event about love.
Congratulations on your wedding, and good luck in your marriage!
As a bisexual woman also married to a man, I know exactly what you mean. There was always that discomforting sense that I'd somehow met with society's approval and gained the right to marry by ending up in this relationship rather than another. Gay marriage is obviously a huge thing for people who are exclusively gay, but for me it also feels like the right to actually identify as bisexual without feeling that the deck is stacked one way only.
Actually, this is one of the main reasons Brian and I have not married - because we don't want society to have expectations of what is going on in our relationship.
We also got a get-out-of-inheritance-tax-worries card for a few years (though very expensively to other budgets) by having a child. This may change if the London house market keeps up its current trends, but the Tories are onto it and anyway, sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
We married so long ago that I have to admit that lack of equality for same-sex couples never occurred to me at the time.
There has been such progress during the 40 years since G and I married. Gay sex had barely been decriminalised then and the age of consent was still 21. Now there is legal equality at last and I feel quietly happy that I've seen such a change during my lifetime.
I am pleased to know that whomever he eventually chooses as a life partner will (hopefully soon in my state, damn it) be able to fully share rights no matter how they identify.
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Even though it doesn't concern me personally at all, it felt like a punch to the gut.
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Congrats!
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Congratulations on your wedding, and good luck in your marriage!
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It is an amazing day for all sorts of reasons.
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We also got a get-out-of-inheritance-tax-worries card for a few years (though very expensively to other budgets) by having a child. This may change if the London house market keeps up its current trends, but the Tories are onto it and anyway, sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
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There has been such progress during the 40 years since G and I married. Gay sex had barely been decriminalised then and the age of consent was still 21. Now there is legal equality at last and I feel quietly happy that I've seen such a change during my lifetime.
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I am pleased to know that whomever he eventually chooses as a life partner will (hopefully soon in my state, damn it) be able to fully share rights no matter how they identify.
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