Wha-?

[flying_young]

Wha-?  I don't get it.  Perhaps my five years of University education failed me, but I guess such thing as relationships don't work in terms of theories, or passes repetitive testing.

Last time when Mr. Bear went out alone with a girl, my little rule system, although seemingly silly and naive, seems to work out fine for the both of us.  But this

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[arr_matey]

I know how you feel, hun. I love my boy and I trust him totally with this kind of thing but I still secretly get a little bristly when he makes plans with old lady friends. I think that little bit of tension is normal.

[flying_young]

Who is this new boy and how does he come to have old lady friends??!

Oh geez, sometimes tension caused by this can go sky-rocket high, though. =( Gee, how did you manage to hide your discontent or allow it to go away? I always have trouble doing that... *frowns

[arr_matey]

Ha ha, he's not that "new" anymore! His name is Oliver, we've been dating since late September. He's just super personable and has a ridiculous amount of friends everywhere (and by "lady friends" I just mean friends are female).

As far as the discontentment is concerned, very early in the relationship there was an issue where I was upset about a girl trying to get too close to him. I didn't say anything but I guess my anger was kind of transparent because he called me on it and we had a nice long talk about it. I also remind myself not to hold double standards - I have a lot of guy friends and he trusts me spending time with them. Plus I've seen him get uptight when other guys flirt with me so I know that he doesn't respect that kind of behavior.

But in the end I guess it just comes down to trust. He will always have female friends and I will always have guy friends but we chose to be with each other. Ha ha,I have no idea if that helps or not...

[flying_young]

Thanks for adding me on Facebook! I saw your pictures and I must say you two look adorable together!

Thank you.. hmm.. I had a long talk (fought) with Sunny (Mr. Bear), and he agreed to be more sensitive about my tendancy to get jealous about his girl-friends.. but I think up until now, he still doesn't understand why I get jealous!