odd...?

[fractal_raven]

I just noticed this earlier today...someone I don't know...added my journal on his friends list without asking me...should I be angry? it just feels like some kind of personal advertisment....especially when I hopped on to his site and find various pleas to buy his homemade films. since he has heavy goth interests - I'm guessing he found me though

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[goneril]

LJ-etiquette is an odd thing. Everyone works on their own version of it.

Ultimately, you have no control over who adds you - if it makes you uncomfortable to think of people doing so without permission, you can go friends only and make them comment to get access to your journal (i.e. by adding them back).

He probably didn't mean any offence, though it's always a bit odd when you get added and the person doesn't even say hello. Maybe he'll see this and tell you!

Hope things are working out for you, btw. I often don't know what to say to your entries because they're so personal - but I do read, and wish you good things.

[fractal_raven]

you know...I'm acutely aware on how old-fashioned my notions of honor and respect for others are...but I cling to these concepts...because they define who I am as an individual...and while I am sad to see that not everyone has these motivations...I don't expect anyone to follow them in the way that I do. I also am aware that this is a public forum...but it disappoints me when folks think that basic social rules of conduct - like introductions and getting to know someone...are shoved aside with the rationalization of - "this is the net, it doesn't matter"...or..."the rules don't apply to me...cause I'm an INDIVIDUAL!" I try to give everyone I meet - the same respect which I demand from others...so when someone does something along these lines...it's an obvious lack of consideration for another's space - intentional or otherwise

[goneril]

I'm glad I asked before I added you. It definately seemed like the right thing to do - though, I have to admit that I don't always. If people have a large friends list, I often feel like I can slip in anonymously, or slightly intimidated by the number of eyes that will be on that 'hi, do you mind...?' post. So I have, and do, just add - though most of the time I've already had interaction with the person elsewhere and will mention that - or they've added me first. Anyway.

I don't mean for my journal to be overtly in-jokey. I'm a little disappointed that it comes over that way, but I guess that, with school being out, the only stuff I have to talk about is my day-to-day dull stuff, which includes people on my friendslist, many of whom know each other, too. Will try harder. ;)

Bad Spell.

[anonymous]

It's me A. I've been thinking about you...the posts you've made on your blog. I just wanted to say sometimes we all feel alone. That we need guardians...stuffed and non-stuffed to hold on to...to make us feel like we have protection and a feeling of wellness from somewhere, someone. But i don't think you should feel like these unfortunate events/luck/karma are rubbing off on everyone else in your life...yes, sometimes we can effect each other and energy bounces off each other. BUT, don't underestimate the importance of a person forging their own path. Regardless of what is happening in another life's, you can't control the circumstances a person is in...it just is what it is. The key is to lend whatever support we can to each other and show love...sometimes that's all you can while you deal with life. And i do think you can find that beauty and clarity again...it's redicovering it...finding those patterns against the incoherence and the distortations that confusion and frustration brings. We all have to work on blocking it out and

Re: Bad Spell.

[fractal_raven]

thanx....we'll talk soon.