And thirty-two does not have to mean that I sit all day in a rocking chair and watch the world go by. If my moments of playful 'immaturity' bother you, I'm going to venture a guess you haven't taken the time to get to know me well enough to see that that's the only side of me. I'd like to offer you the chance, but it seems you've already made up your mind.
there's a difference between playful immaturity, and acting like a straight up child who wants to have the entire conversation be ablout you ~and your friend~. you are not playfully immature, you are immature on all levels, and by no means do i expect a thirty-two year old to sit in a rocking chair and knit, but i do expect you to have some sense, to know what's appropriate to say what's not appropriate to say, and how to act. this is not my first time encountering you or this behavior, and i would have really thought that you would have changed, but you clearly haven't.
i shouldn't have to tell this to a sunbaenim, such as yourself, but grow up.
What do you really expect me to say? You passed judgement a long, long time ago. Do I think maybe there are things I say that I might not should be saying? Of course. But am I the only one that every says anything even remotely inappropriate in the blast? No. Am I always going to bite my tongue just so I don't make a few people uncomfortable? No. If you think that the way I joke in the blast is all of who I am, then I'm really really sorry you've got blinders on and can't take them off.
I'm passing through, and I don't personally know you, but if you're really 32 and you're really sunbae to these people, you're setting an awful example and I don't blame them for being uncomfortable. I'm not even Korean and I can imagine how hard it must be for younger people to interact with a sunbae that refuses to behave appropriately.
No, I was hoping you just were feeling attacked and hearing from an unbiased party might make you understand the discomfort you seem to be causing, but apparently you really are quite disrespectful.
If someone would be ever so kind as to tell me exactly what I'm doing wrong, it would be greatly appreciated. They say I'm in appropriate, yet it's okay for others to crack inappropriate jokes and say things far more perverted than I do.. I'm just asking for someone to explain that too me. And considering you just said you were hoping I was just feeling attacked, makes me really question your motives and your status as an unbiased party.
What on earth does the last part mean? I meant I was hoping that you weren't really refusing to see where these people were coming from and in reality were just overwhelmed. I was giving you the benefit of the doubt because I don't know you. I'm not interested in arguing with you when I don't know you, I just wanted you to take these people seriously if you really are their elder.
If I misunderstood, then I'm sorry, but it really didn't seem like you were giving me the benefit of the doubt. It seemed more like someone who just came to look at the freakshow. I'm sorry.
No, I saw it and I felt badly that multiple people were taking issue with something about you all at the same time because that can make it hard for a person to see clearly. I was blunt because I still think you should take their concerns seriously, however. A little introspection never hurts anyone.
I never said I was refusing to take anyone's concerns seriously. I wouldn't have asked for someone to actually talk to me and tell me specifically what made them uncomfortable if I wasn't wanting to listen.
the image i see of you, in a public place, makes you come off as rude, self-centered, and immature. it does not make me want to go out of my way and talk to you more. you are losing people right from the get-go with that. no one wants to go and talk to someone one on one, if the way they act in public is like that. it's extremely off putting.
i am well aware that this is not the first time you have been told any of these things, as you were told this same stuff over a year ago. if you are still seeing the exact same things, the problem is not with the other person, sunbae, but it is with you. one would think that if you are told this stuff at one point in time (a year ago), you would have made some changes to this attitude, or aspect of your personality, but from what I see, this has not changed.
the fact that you take on this attitude not only in the blast, but here as well, makes it extremely hard for me to respect you as the sunbaenim and idol that you are.
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i shouldn't have to tell this to a sunbaenim, such as yourself, but grow up.
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i am well aware that this is not the first time you have been told any of these things, as you were told this same stuff over a year ago. if you are still seeing the exact same things, the problem is not with the other person, sunbae, but it is with you. one would think that if you are told this stuff at one point in time (a year ago), you would have made some changes to this attitude, or aspect of your personality, but from what I see, this has not changed.
the fact that you take on this attitude not only in the blast, but here as well, makes it extremely hard for me to respect you as the sunbaenim and idol that you are.
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