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spurred by the words(&also not words) of teacher(s

Comments

[gilbertdurst]

Honestly I think its pretty normal to judge someone initially based on their appearance. What else do you have to work with right off the bat? And like you said, the notion of someone not forming some kind of judgement or opinion when indtroduced to a new person or unfamiliar object, is absurd and "unnatural". It's weather or not you act upon this initial judgement that makes it a dangerous thing. I personally try not to write someone off based on first impression, but I will form an opinion weather I want to or not (and I try real hard not to lie to myself). So I feel that the real issue is weather or not I take initial judgement seriously. Because it's always there. -Bob D.

[paramatma]

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[nerdified]

I'm bad at writing all fragmented, but I will say that I think the key is to work past the point of judgement with all people. That is to say, to move to a place where we can judge them by their actions and not their looks, first impression they give off or any of that surface stuff. Judgement is a wild cycle because we can't do this with everyone, and, like you say, people are judgemental by nature. So we keep judging. Since there are more people in the world than there are possible to overcome the first judgements we pass on everyone, the cycle continues. I'm thinking of it as a personal continuum you have with everyone. Either you're very impression-based, or very action/knowing based. Cycles and continuums is how I think most of the world works. So, it's clear that while actions are more of a determinant of who a person is, we can't base everyone on their actions. Restraint of judgement is not so much habitual as necessary depending on the point you are at in a relationship with someone.

[godispullman]

i feel that by judging a person by looking solely at their apperience is an ok thing to do just because of how easy and hard to avoid it is. i find it very difficult to walk into a crowd of people (at a party with a mixed vierity of people) and not say to myself, "thoes guys over there are probably pretty cool, but thoes girls over there are going to be very annoing and thoes guys over there are probably jerks." i do not feel that by doing this i am missing out on anything or doing anything wrong, because when it come down to it, if anyone came up to talk to me, i would listen to what they had to say and then perhaps make my judgement about them as a person based on that. haha. no but seriously, judging someone is a reflex for some people and i do not really know if it is a totally bad thing.
have you recieved my letter yet? i got yours today and that comic blew my mind.

[labohemian]

exellent.- ilove this entry-
i realized this is so true! - er, I think it is anyhow... i do the same. i will judge people when i first see them- because its automatic. i cant help those thoughts- but i wont act upon them- i wont say anything because thats stupid. ill talk with them and then see how i feel about them and then thats that.i like to be openminded.

~cool post kev.