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gement

How Not to Be Seen

Apr 03, 2014 08:15

So, I spend a lot of time wondering how people are gendering me. Because it's so hard to get masculine speed-reads out of people (most clearly demonstrated through clerks and waitstaff who are required to use a gendered honorific), I tend to get obsessed with it and try harder and harder ( Read more... )

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tsarina April 3 2014, 16:37:59 UTC

The reason I can't give up my occasional visits to Taco Bell is entirely because the staff there always calls me sir.

gement April 3 2014, 16:53:39 UTC

Man, if I had a context like that, I'd be eating there once a WEEK.

tsarina April 3 2014, 21:18:35 UTC

What makes it double crazy is I think they are the only fast food joint in the neighborhood that doesn't screw up my order. They are just so nice.

caladri April 3 2014, 17:10:38 UTC

The only comment was, "Tom's got awfully big tits for a man."

There's something wonderful and charming about that!

najalaise April 4 2014, 01:00:16 UTC

Um. Alternate explanation from COMPLETELY RANDOM (which is how it typically feels to me): there's someone running around to coffee shops just referring to folks as "this gentleman" all over the place. Cuz I had someone ahead of me in line in a coffeeshop on Tuesday say, "Oh, go ahead and help this gentleman first, I need to get something from my car."

I think I'm gonna decide it's some sort of peculiar conspiracy. That'd be fun.

gement April 6 2014, 21:29:31 UTC

I join you in this theory. We could perpetuate it by saying "this gentleman" about random other people!

Good to see you last night.

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gement April 6 2014, 21:30:31 UTC

For me and that particular fandom, not so much. But only because I have the "he's family, ew" thing going on with the Doctor.

littlemystories April 4 2014, 07:16:37 UTC

From the show itself, I think you might have slightly less challenge than you anticipate, at least in the most recent iteration. "Whoever did this I'm shaking his-stroke-her hand-stroke-tentacle."

gement April 6 2014, 21:32:04 UTC

Oh, I don't see it as being a huge problem with him. The big wacky is just not knowing what words will sound right even to me. I am secretly hoping that some subliminal shop talk with the TARDIS translation circuit gets me hearing myself called things that work for me so I can figure out what the hell those things are.