I've been thinking about something, and have found myself leaning in a direction I didn't think I'd go to again. It has to do with looking at getting pregnant again
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Having two kids that are so close in age (well, mine are the same age obviously) is amazing. It's so fun to watch them grow and play with eachother. I even heard that 2 kids is even easier than one. With one, you have to entertain them every single waking moment (ok, well not exactly), but with 2 you can let them play together. It's also so fun for them to have a little "built-in" friend.
You should probably take into consideration your financial problem. Whatever you chose, I'm sure it will be great. btw, you can put a girl and boy in the same room when they are little. Then when you are able t move into a bigger house, you can let them have their own rooms. Personally, I see know harm in that (maybe because we cosleep so they were in OUR room for awhile and still are), but it's your decision. My sister and brother and I lived in one bedroom in a condo until we were 9, 5, and 1.
We're not wanting to have another one now. However, we would like to have another one say within the next year or two. I know that no one is ever financially ready for children. I was out of work and Hubby was having problems with his back around the time we found out about the pregnancy last year. There are too many things that have to get caught up on before even considering having a new addition to our family. The big one is figuring out how we are going to pay for the tens of thousands of dollars the surgery cost that insurance isn't going to pay for.
I think it would be really neat for William to have a little brother or sister. We were beyond blessed to have him. We may not even have the opportunity to have another one. But, whatever happens will happen for a reason. We can't ask for anything more than that.
If it may cause you your life, I don't think it's selfish, but if you're just doint it because you want those little moments back, I would definately rethink it. You sound very levelheaded about the whole thing, being that you've carefully laid out all the pros and cons. I think in this situation, the cons definately outweigh the pros. Are you sure those little moments are the only reason you want another child though? I don't know you at all, so if this offends you I'm deeply sorry, but do you think you may want another child because of your marriage? Do you reflect and think about how your hubby treated you when you were carrying his child, is it possible you want another child as a fix-it for your marriage? Again, I don't know you, and I don't mean to offend, it's just something else to think about as you contemplate having another baby.
Hubby was beyond supportive with our pregnancy. The one thing that got to me all the time was his insistance of me drowning in water. But, that didn't do anything bad except keep me up at night running back and forth to the bathroom. So, it's not all bad
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I'm glad you share the same POV on things as I do, at least about the "getting to know you" thing. I think the depression will definately be the deciding factor in whether you have another child or not. I just think if you're still suffering from PPD from William, you shouldn't look to get pregnant again. Can you imagine PPD from both children? Adoption definately sounds like a safer route, but then again, you have to evaluate finances. Can you afford to completely care for both children, or will both have to "live without" because of the strain (of course parents tighten their belts first, but you get what I mean...I hope).
Either way, I'll be completely supportive (as supportive as a LJ friend can be, that is) of your decision. :)
That is a tough question to answer. Yes and no. I was raised to treat others with respect, and to follow the Golden Rule. However, my grandmother had me brought up (when I was getting into my teens) to fear God and that if I even had the slightest thought that was sinful, a giant hole would open up in the ground and I'd go straight downhill, to *that* place
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You should probably take into consideration your financial problem. Whatever you chose, I'm sure it will be great. btw, you can put a girl and boy in the same room when they are little. Then when you are able t move into a bigger house, you can let them have their own rooms. Personally, I see know harm in that (maybe because we cosleep so they were in OUR room for awhile and still are), but it's your decision. My sister and brother and I lived in one bedroom in a condo until we were 9, 5, and 1.
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I think it would be really neat for William to have a little brother or sister. We were beyond blessed to have him. We may not even have the opportunity to have another one. But, whatever happens will happen for a reason. We can't ask for anything more than that.
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Either way, I'll be completely supportive (as supportive as a LJ friend can be, that is) of your decision. :)
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