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Nov 27, 2008 21:33

There's a great chance that next semester I could be 'officially' living with my boyfriend. This is a giant step - though is it? For a 20 year old on the brink of being 21 - we've practically been living together for the past 2 months, I can't remember the last time I spent the night at my own apartment and any time I go there it's just to drop off ( Read more... )

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caramamia November 29 2008, 01:47:50 UTC

I don't think we're too young. It's not like you're getting married! I'm moving to Brazil with my boyfriend, and my parents love it. Does your mom like him?

gerlx November 29 2008, 03:07:52 UTC

She loves him, he's a perfect gentleman and just incredibly charismatic and personable. She just doesn't like the idea of me living in sin, she's kind of religious.
Though, my sister did mention that when she approached my mother with the idea of her moving in with her boyfriend, she wasn't completely against it. But then again my sister's been dating her boyfriend for 3+ years, not 3+ months. But when you know something's a good thing, you just KNOW immediately.
I need to put on my thinking cap about this. :/

thisguyiknow November 29 2008, 09:35:05 UTC

The only real risk is that if you break up or have a big fight and find yourself with no place to live. But as long as you have an option in place for that situation you can't wind up in too bad of shape.

The other thing is be sure to split more than just your boyfriend's half of the rent so that the roommate pays less rent as well for taking on an extra roommate. Make sure the roommate isn't put out too much by all of this.

gerlx November 29 2008, 17:11:57 UTC

Yeah, I definitely realized this possibility. I feel pretty confident, and I do have a plan B if that ever happens.
As for rent, I've practically been living there already and the other roommate is a good friend of mine and I end up cooking for him and cleaning up the apartment 100x's more than anyone else, so that in itself (and this has been verbalized by him) is more than enough as compensation.

thisguyiknow November 29 2008, 18:40:07 UTC

The having a place to go isn't just for if you break up, it's also if you have a big fight and need to get away from each other for a little a while. Regardless of how confident you feel about the relationship lasting forever. There will be fights, so it's a matter of whether you're ready to deal with having to wake up next to the person even when you're not happen with him and you'd rather not. That's a maturity thing that you may or may not be ready for, but really the only way to find out is try ( ... )