You know.

[gf_girlie]

I don't have a problem with people differ in their parenting techniques. What I do have a problem with is negativity surrounding other people's choices.. If you'd like to delete me because I circ'd my son, vaccinate or had to bottle feed after 6wks, then go for it. I don't need someone else to make me feel like crap about my parenting choices

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[lower_class]

It was never my intention to make you feel like crap.
I disagreeing with circ'ing. I just wanted to know why it's okay for my opinions to make you sad, but i'm not allowed to say yours make me sad?

I like having people who feel different than me on my journal. If I was surrounded by people who believed in nothing but intact boys, breastfeeding, wearing slings, delayed vaxing, co-sleeping, cloth diapering, etc...I would have never learned anything outside of that small circle.

It's a discussion, not an attack.
I never asked you to defend yourself and i'm sorry you feel like you have to.

I have said, over and over, that what people do with their kids is their choice. I can't force you to do anything with your son, just as you can't force me to do anything with my daughter. I feel that circ'ing is wrong. That's how I feel. You feel that circ'ing is right. It's a difference of opinions and that's all. You cannot get mad at me for thinking the way you think is wrong, when you feel the same way about me.

[gf_girlie]

How can you say all those negative things about a personal choice and not have it come off totally offensive? If I said something totally derogatory about a personal choice that applied to you, I would expect to be called out on it to look at what I said and maybe rethink the way I word it.

[srs_breakfast]

I'm always curious about this, I'm relatively anti-circ but I stop short of insulting the parents who choose to do it (other than saying that I disagree). I don't get the vitriol from either side. Same with bf/ff or any of the other things moms latch on to and use as weapons against other moms. It's one thing to have an opinion... it's another thing entirely to be a little shit about it.

[gf_girlie]

I don't think anyone was being a shit, but it just makes me sad when people imply I didn't think about it or that its OMGAWFUL.

I talked to my dad about it, a man who served for years as a naval corpsman and saw many a nasty peen in Vietnam, who was uncirc'd himself and wished he had been. I talked to my husband (a circ'd man) and read and read about it. I was upset when he went away and upset when he came back. I nursed him and hugged him tight. It was one of the harder choices we had to make.

[raccoonbonapart]

Wait, you keep your son healthy and clean??? HORRORS.

*unfriends*

[gf_girlie]

OMG RIGHT? Dirt is healthyyy!

[raccoonbonapart]

Children should be dirty and malnourished so they learn their lesson.

[cursed_genesis]

I love you! But the second that baby misses a bath night IT'S ON!

[gf_girlie]

OH. It's on then. Except not tonight, he's at his Mimi's and she always gives him a bath. :)

[cursed_genesis]

Haha, I should take a picture of Lyra right now and post it to p101, she's holding an [empty] redbull can pretending to drink from it and an old dead cell phone. We keep it classy in Canada.

[gf_girlie]

Haha. That's awesome. Austin does the same thing...only with Monster and Pepsi cans.

[gf_girlie]

To me, all parenting choices are personal. You never know why someone chooses what they choose to do. Who cares? As long as kids are healthy, fed and clothed and loved...Who cares?

[concave_cocaine]

<3 I respect you and all the decisions you make to care for YOUR child. He is obviously thriving, so you have nothing to feel bad about.

The most important thing is to respect other's choices, and continue to do what's best for your family. Don't let those judgy people get you down. <3