Words and phrases I would prefer never to see or hear again, a list

[giddy_london]

1. chubby chaser: Is there an equivalent, like say, ‘skinny stalker’ or something similar? No? Oh, well then you can shut the hell up and stop fetishizing/othering body types that do not follow society’s patriarchal view of what is ‘normal’ or ‘attractive’.

2. slut-shaming/whorephobia: The problem inherent in these terms is that by using them to

Comments

[promisethstars]

Yes x4

In other words, I agree with all of this, and really don't see why people feel that they have to use such words and phrases.

[giddy_london]

Unfortunately, I think the answer to that is "Because patriarchy" - it just really makes me sad to see so many women and girls who are so ashamed of, embarrassed by, and uninformed about their bodies.

[giddy_london]

I find chubby chaser so horrible on so many levels. I understand that people may have 'types' or may be attracted to certain characteristics in other people, but to point it out, to fetishize it, really is insulting.

[cloudlessclimes]

I agree with 3 so much. I hate it. I actually defriended someone because she kept using that phrase. Of course she was also violently anti-children and referred to them as 'crotch droppings' which didn't impress me either.

[giddy_london]

I cannot even begin to express how much I hate 'bleeding from the vag' - I just think it shows disrespect for and ignorance about your body, which is something I hate to see in other girls and women. (And in an experience opposite yours, I had someone defriend me because I don't like the phrase). I'm pretty live and let live with regard to other people and their ideas, but I agree with you - I'd definitely be deeply unimpressed with someone so ashamed of her own body and so intolerant of the decision of other people to have children.

[dancinbutterfly]

Agreex100 to pretty much all of it

[giddy_london]

Thanks, R. I appreciate you taking the time to say something. I've been wondering for the last two days why it is that people are more than happy to interact with you when you have fun, happy, fannish things to talk about, but as soon as you express an actual opinion about important issues, everyone is dead silent. (Or, in some cases, hitting the defriend button). So I'm really, really glad for intelligent discussion. Okay, I'm done with my tangent

[dancinbutterfly]

The long journal entry I did about it is here: http://dancinbutterfly.livejournal.com/314482.html If you want to read that, and where I go into it in the comments. I talk about it more

[giddy_london]

I saw your post, and I was really glad to see that so many of the people commenting to it were confident enough to say "Fuck it. It doesn't matter. You do what you want!" That was totally awesome - on the other hand, that there was a universal acknowledgment of society's brainwashing still sucks. I think what it comes down to for me is a genuine wish that women be comfortable with, knowledgeable about, and confident in their bodies. Unfortunately, I know that's a long, long way off, especially since, as women, we can't manage to get together and support one another in such an endeavor because we are too busy tearing each other down or ignoring the fact that things need to change

[lhazzie]

1&2. Just... Whut? Why so stupid, world? Why?

3. My friends know more about my sex life than about my reproductive system. I've been having periods about 7 years longer than I've been having sex... I can't help but feel this is wrong. Though... The former makes better gossip than the latter, and we're totally balancing it out as we get older and sensibler. Which is a real word, honest.

4. Yes! When I lived with exBoy I couldn't be perfectly groomed at all times, and it didn't matter. Also, it meant that having super smooth legs etc made special occasions more special... :)