Fwiends!

[girlfriend120]

I wasn't quite sure how to word this, so I just threw some sentences together and figured you'd probably understand what I'm asking : )

What qualities do you require in a friend? What do you think makes someone a *true* friend? Is there such a thing? And if so, do you have someone like that in your life?

Comments

[russianfigs]

It would take a really good connection to consider someone a "true friend". A similar way of thinking, sense of humor, compatible personality, etc. That's the basis of trust, but trust only builds with time.

[girlfriend120]

Trust is a big one for me too.

[spyral_path]

I've given up and just started calling all of my aquaintances friends because I decided that's what everyone else does. I'm in a cynical mood tonight.

Good to see you back girlfriend.

[girlfriend120]

I'm cynical about friendships in general. I think most don't know the definition of an actual friend, so many call their acquaintances 'friend' because they don't know there used to be a difference. It's unfortunate.

[torishaze]

I'm trying to think of qualities or ways to answer this. I've kinda been thinking about it off and on all day and I can't come up with certain things I expect.

Yeah, I believe in 'true' friends but honestly, there are 2 people in the world I've been friends with for awhile now that I actually trust and love to death.

Rachael and Shannon.

We've all been friends since 12 years old and I think that's why. If we still find a way to talk/see each other every once in awhile, it feels worth it and I have a much deeper love for them than I can really explain.

The other thing is, I'm so afraid of people judging me based on my appearance/weight but when I hang out with either of them, that has never been an issue and it never will be.

That's the best I can explain it.

I love other people as friends of course but I can't seem to feel that sense of comfort with them. It's probably the time thing.

That was lonnnnnnnnnng.
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[girlfriend120]

Being afraid of judgmental people is more common than most are aware of I think. That's why there are so many fake ass people in the world; they know they're being judge and they turn around and do the same. It all makes it extremely difficult to find a real friend.

I am still in touch with a few girls from my childhood. I love them and will be their friends no matter what, but to be completely honest, if I met them tomorrow I don't know if we would become friends because we have few similarities anymore. People grow up and change, but I knew them at a more innocent time and still love them in that unconditional way that inly a child could.

And I like long comments, mmmmkaaay?

[repurgitator]

I have one girlfriend that I love more than my own sisters. She came into my life shortly after I was raped and bore a child out of wedlock. She invited me and my infant child to live with her. She babysat for me while I worked long weekend hours. She and her husband and small children became my child's second family. She introduced me to her friends who were all parents with young children. Subsequently, my child and I developed an entire network of new friends

[girlfriend120]

I was shaking my head 'yes' when I read your comment. That is a true friendship to me. Someone who isn't just there when it's easy and fun. Someone whom you can trust with your honest and bare soul and not leave you once they see it. They're right there with actions instead of a quick, "Gee, I'm sorry" phone call.

Your husband is indeed jealous, as well as resentful. He is angry because he is hurt by the knowledge that he can't give you the friendship that he knows he is should provide as a partner. My boyfriend is highly critical and often angry towards my mother because he is jealous and resentful of our close relationship. People are flawed...

[spyral_path]

I think your husband is threatened by anything that would make you stronger.

[alexythmia]

Trust is the main foundation of friendship for me. A true friend is someone who is non-judgmental, who will always support me and be there for me no matter what. Someone who will pick me up when I fall. And someone I can have fun with, of course! I am so lucky to have more than one person like that in my life. I know they feel the same way about me.

Girl, I missed youuuuuu!! How was your vacay?

[girlfriend120]

Trust is huge to me too. Most women think I'm a bitch when they first meet me because I'm very guarded. I'm trying to work on that, but it's tough when people often seem fake.

Support no matter what is also a big one. When I say I'm someone's friend no matter what, I really mean it. It's tough to find someone that will give that back to you though.

*muah!!* I missed you too sister! Thanks for asking. I will post about it when I get the pics from my mom.