Never thought I would have that conversation twice...

[griqkincaid]

So about 4 years ago I actually told my parents about my poly lifestyle. My dad was was totally accepting of it and didn't seem to think anything of it as if I had said "Dad, I have feet." It was great how totally chill he was with the idea. My mom on the other hand viewed it as a phase that I would "get over" once I got married. I left this to

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[dicedork]

For about the first five years, my mom would ask me if I was still doing that "swinger thing" every few months. I think she's starting to get it now. (Lydia, and thus Oliver too, have been a part of my life longer than any "between-leavings" time that Pepper was, and I think after the first couple of times Pepper "left" me, Mom figured that relationship had a shelf life.)

[griqkincaid]

Have I ever mentioned how you three are one of the best examples I know of that confirm for all of the naysayers that polyamory really does work?

Has your mom brought it up at all or you brought it up with her to find out where she is at in her acceptance of the reality that you are in a happy, functional polyamorous triad?

[dicedork]

She was taking yet another opportunity one day during a visit to tell me exactly what she thought of it (it isn't good), and I said, "Mom, you've made it clear what you think, now let me live my life. You're talking about the woman who is very likely going to be the mother of your grandchildren."

Since then she's treated Lydia like a daughter in law and at least kept her mouth shut about her negative thoughts. I don't know that's acceptance or tolerance, but I'll take it.

[griqkincaid]

It's better than flagrant disregard or downright hostility.