I have found myself in balancing it with my beliefs, talking quietly to family and friends.. and knowing that all in all in the end is was a release from suffering.
Theoretically I agree, but my beliefs here might be a bit of a stumbling block: Christianity is good news for those who are in it, but not so good news for anyone else - I won't go into a theological debate here, so please, if anyone is thinking of replying to my last sentence, do refrain at this stage, I am not in a state to handle it sensibly - and the person in point is balanced in a seeking limbo made more poignant by the current circumstances.
It is sad and hard to admit it, but yes, it would be a release from suffering, and this, in whichever form it will come, is going to be welcome.
This is something I recently struggled with when Peter's friend died. It's one of the few times I miss my community. There is enough formality and ritual, and enough time and space for personal grieving and quietness. There are also set days at different intervals when it is appropriate for the community at large to remember and grieve together.
I find it's important not to be alone too much, talk through the feelings of loss, and the person lost to you, but also to take time for meditation, prayer and inner calmness. Also, spend time with others who are also grieving. Being there for others, I find, can be important, as you are one of few people at that time who can share your feelings with them, which can be theraputic to both of you.
Being there for others, I find, can be important, as you are one of few people at that time who can share your feelings with them, which can be theraputic to both of you.
I totally agree. But how do you deal with others, the only others who would matter being there for, but do not want you there out of misguided feelings of protection?
I miss community in this too, not because I am not part of one, but because the people involved in this particular situation are not part of it or of any community for that matter.
The set days to grieve and be conforted by my own community will come, I fear. At the moment is more grievance at a very difficult and seemingly hopeless situation, and maybe in some senses is grievance anticipated.
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I can't say anything for anyone else i'm affraid.
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It is sad and hard to admit it, but yes, it would be a release from suffering, and this, in whichever form it will come, is going to be welcome.
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Please don't be sorry for what you wrote, any view is valued and helpful in making me find my own answer - thank you for sharing it.
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I find it's important not to be alone too much, talk through the feelings of loss, and the person lost to you, but also to take time for meditation, prayer and inner calmness. Also, spend time with others who are also grieving. Being there for others, I find, can be important, as you are one of few people at that time who can share your feelings with them, which can be theraputic to both of you.
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I totally agree. But how do you deal with others, the only others who would matter being there for, but do not want you there out of misguided feelings of protection?
I miss community in this too, not because I am not part of one, but because the people involved in this particular situation are not part of it or of any community for that matter.
The set days to grieve and be conforted by my own community will come, I fear. At the moment is more grievance at a very difficult and seemingly hopeless situation, and maybe in some senses is grievance anticipated.
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