Death and toddlers

[hgmorgann]

Rich's grandfather passed away this evening. We will be heading to Weirton tomorrow. His family dog also died about a week ago. How do we deal with this with Morgann? I'm sure the first thing she will ask is "Where's Thor?" when we get to his parents house. Then she will ask to see Pap. Pap, to me, was a grumpy old man, but Morgann loved him so

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[vitaminada]

No experience here, but I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss. :(

[hgmorgann]

Thank you. I'll tell that to Rich too.

[karlyhs]

Gosh, I'm sorry. I don't really know what you could say to her but many times children often have the sixth sense and can just tell and often know so much more about death then we give them credit for.

My cousin was 3 when my Mom passed away and he and his Mom were at their house and he walked up to her and told her LeLe was in heaven now. We called her about 10 minutes later and told her but she already knew. Weird.

[hgmorgann]

Thank you,
that is true about kids understanding stuff and having insight. I had two toddlers come up and tell me I had a baby in my belly before I found out I was pregnant....

I hope she understands in her own way.

[mgmhmj]

I'm so sorry for both of your losses. I don't have kids so I don't have experience on that side of it, but my mom's family is very large but we lost a lot of people at young ages, so I learned about death when I was pretty young. I can't remember how old Morgann is (sorry, it's been a REALLY long week - I'm not sure that I remember how old I am), but it seems like my parents just told us that "Memaw went to heaven to be with the angels," or something like that. It was an explanation that didn't get into the whole concept of death b/c we were too young to understand that, but it wasn't something that made us feel tricked or lied to once we were old enough to understand. Does that make sense? And as far as losing both, maybe you could just tell her that they went together to keep each other company? I don't know if that helps at all, but I do hope you and Rich and the rest of the family are doing OK.

[hgmorgann]

Thank you for your kind words. Morgann is 2.5 and our nephew is 3.5, so we know they both will be a bit confused when they arrive at Rich's parents housse.

I don't think I congratulated you on your engagment yet. I'm sorry. BUT Congratulations!! Your dress is beautiful!

[hgmorgann]

Thank you Jess.

[ladybug777]

So sorry.

No experience on how to address this w/ Morgan.