Wait, did she just send you this message randomly? What a bitch. You should tell TNG that it made you uncomfortable, not because of who she was but because of what she said.
As for Ross, it's natural for him to feel jealous. You just have to make sure you reassure him that you want to be with him, not Ross.
As for the fat jokes, come now... No girl needs that. He should know better.
No, she sent the message to TNG. I don't think I was supposed to have read it. So I haven't mentioned anything.
I tried to. But he still seems angry. I don't know what to do. I should have known I'd mess this up.
I also tried to tell him how much they hurt me. They stopped for about a minute. I just feel ridiculous now, like he's documenting my every flaw.
I'm waiting for him to call. I don't think he's going to. So I think I'm just going to cry myself to sleep tonight. I don't know how things got messed up so fast.
Kat, honey, there are a million things I feel like I want to type in here, but above all:
You are ABSOLUTELY worth trying hard for. I've seen pictures of you, and you're nuts to say you're not pretty. Please make sure you have the right internal dialouge, because you should not have to feel this way. Don't ever feel worthless, there is no reason to. If I could give you advice, it would be to just breathe. Take a step back. And if he doesn't stop the jokes and petty crap or it gets worse...he's not worth it. You have this backwards, I'm telling you.
I'm sorry if this sounds all "easy for you to say" but I feel like I had to say something, you know? Feel better. :)
I'm trying really hard to just go with it. I know that he's kidding, but would it kill him to tell me I'm pretty now and again? He's such a good guy and I know that if I can get him to just stop making little comments like that, which he doesn't mean hurtfully, then it'll be really good.
First of all, I'm really glad to know you're ok. It's a shame you have to work so much, I thought that now that summer's coming you'd be aroud more. :(
I know it's easier said than done, but you shouldn't let the comments of a person who doesn't even know you affect in that way. Screw her! She's got no real elements to say such things! AND she's questioning his best friend's judgement... it's just ridiculous. The worst part, Kat is that you're letting yourself convince that what she says it's true. Don't let her win, Kat, the relationship is between two and if TNG decides to take her word, then he is the one who's not worthy, he's the one who doesn't know you.
Now, the fat jokes are just cruel, especially if you told him to stop. Something needs to be done there, sweetie... you need to stop thinking things changed because of something you did, said or because of who you are, that's unacceptable.
I don't think you're overreacting, I think it's time to evaluate what's really going on.
I thought I'd be around more too. :( I'm sick of working and it's only June 1st!
I know that he wrote back to her that I was really cool and that she should get to know me, so my problem is not with him at all. It just bothers me that she judged me so quickly and then decided that she should pass her opinions along.
He's completely joking, I know (I hope), and I think it's that first-grade philosophy where you tease the ones you like, but crap, it hurts sometimes.
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As for Ross, it's natural for him to feel jealous. You just have to make sure you reassure him that you want to be with him, not Ross.
As for the fat jokes, come now... No girl needs that. He should know better.
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I tried to. But he still seems angry. I don't know what to do. I should have known I'd mess this up.
I also tried to tell him how much they hurt me. They stopped for about a minute. I just feel ridiculous now, like he's documenting my every flaw.
I'm waiting for him to call. I don't think he's going to. So I think I'm just going to cry myself to sleep tonight. I don't know how things got messed up so fast.
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You are ABSOLUTELY worth trying hard for. I've seen pictures of you, and you're nuts to say you're not pretty. Please make sure you have the right internal dialouge, because you should not have to feel this way. Don't ever feel worthless, there is no reason to. If I could give you advice, it would be to just breathe. Take a step back. And if he doesn't stop the jokes and petty crap or it gets worse...he's not worth it. You have this backwards, I'm telling you.
I'm sorry if this sounds all "easy for you to say" but I feel like I had to say something, you know? Feel better. :)
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I really don't have artistic talent at all. If anything, he's the one with talent. But I try.
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you phrased the question totally wrong. It should be: Does he deserve you? Honestly, you are a great girl! Why wouldn't anyone want to date you?
Beautiful pictures, btw!
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Thanks! I'm not a very good photographer though. I was trying my hand at something other than humans.
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I know it's easier said than done, but you shouldn't let the comments of a person who doesn't even know you affect in that way. Screw her! She's got no real elements to say such things! AND she's questioning his best friend's judgement... it's just ridiculous. The worst part, Kat is that you're letting yourself convince that what she says it's true. Don't let her win, Kat, the relationship is between two and if TNG decides to take her word, then he is the one who's not worthy, he's the one who doesn't know you.
Now, the fat jokes are just cruel, especially if you told him to stop. Something needs to be done there, sweetie... you need to stop thinking things changed because of something you did, said or because of who you are, that's unacceptable.
I don't think you're overreacting, I think it's time to evaluate what's really going on.
Please take care.
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I know that he wrote back to her that I was really cool and that she should get to know me, so my problem is not with him at all. It just bothers me that she judged me so quickly and then decided that she should pass her opinions along.
He's completely joking, I know (I hope), and I think it's that first-grade philosophy where you tease the ones you like, but crap, it hurts sometimes.
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