If you are there always for others, then in time, someone will be there for you. Really???

[iheartmybee]

I have spent the past few days sick as a dog in bed with the flu. I guess in my lovely profession, I forgot to instruct my students that although I teach them to share nicely with others..there are just some things, like icky sick germs, that they should not share. So they have done just that, they have shared their flu germs with me and wiped me

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[turtleinashell]

I don't know your grandfather, so I can only speculate, but... to you and your family, it may seem perfectly logical for him to come live with family members, that it would be "safer". That doesn't mean it feels that way to him, though. Most of us, and the older you get, the more you might understand this, get to where, even if what we do isn't the safest thing, it feels that way because it's what we know. Maybe he loves the interaction with people when he drives. It could just be that if he gives it up, then in his mind, he's admitting that he can't take care of himself any more. That loss of independence for anyone, but especially an older man, can be devastating. They'd rather die than quit their job. They don't want to depend on others because they don't want to "need" anyone. He's not stupid, but he may be secretly fearful because to do what you're asking of him is not familiar for him, and fear of the unknown is usually greater than other fears

[iheartmybee]

thanks for the comment, Paul! It was appreciated to the fullest extent. I loved the picture that you painted of my grandfather. Though that is not him at all, it was great to attempt to think positively of him and of the whole situation. He's a stubborn, unconnected old man and I just have to learn to accept that.

As for the other issue, he doesn't care and I'm learning that everyday. And as much as it does hurt to know this, it's hurting more to have and deal with all of the other complications in our torrid "thing". I think I'm going to completely just cut off all ties with him for a long while and focus on me and remembering what it was like before i let my heart fall for him. I'm trying to put it all into God's hands, there's just a lot of broken little pieces to assemble to be able to turn it all over....they don't make crazy glue for your heart, you know.

<3 Cass

[turtleinashell]

Well, I was hoping I was right... poo! I thought it might even be possible your grandfather had a moderate mental illness that caused him to not connect well with others. Oh, well, I tried.

I know what you mean about the other thing. I'm sorry it's that way. I guess I was reflecting my own situations from the past onto the guy you're talking about. You're right to put some distance if he is really insensitive. You don't need that. Crazy glue for the heart... yeah, wouldn't that be wonderful? I'd buy some 'cause I could use it, too. **hugs**