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iheartyourlurk

stuff.

Nov 29, 2009 20:53

hearing about jesse has put me in a serious funk. what's weird is that i think more about his girlfriend than him. i don't know if that makes me a bad person or not...all i know is that i can't stop picturing andy next to me in bed, not waking up. it's completely taken over my head the last couple of days and i wish i could get it under control. i ( Read more... )

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5_3_10_4 November 30 2009, 05:28:47 UTC

all i know is that i can't stop picturing andy next to me in bed, not waking up.

I have the same fear.

5_3_10_4 November 30 2009, 05:30:46 UTC

Also, I'm sorry for your loss. And no, it doesn't make you a bad person. When an old friend of mine died his gf was almost due to have their baby... and it fucked with me for days just thinking about her and how awful that would be. Losing a partner in any situation is hard, but some are just unimaginable.

iheartyourlurk November 30 2009, 23:20:58 UTC

thank you <3 i think it's just easier to relate to the girl first because we can so easily imagine ourselves in that scenario. and what happened to your friend is terrible. nothing like that should EVER be allowed to happen. the universe should have some limits on the amount of cruel misfortune it hands out at once.

i_got_luckey November 30 2009, 17:57:16 UTC

i'll be there... i live four streets away...sad

iheartyourlurk November 30 2009, 23:21:17 UTC

well at least i'll get to see you!

__paganpoetry__ November 30 2009, 18:56:01 UTC

I'm so sorry. :(

I don't know how I feel about dying while sleeping. I used to think that it was the preferable situation, but since my mom died in her sleep and my dad found her the next morning it doesn't seem as peaceful as I previously thought. Not being able to say goodbye is an awful concept. I think I'd rather have terminal cancer and a window of time to tell as many of my loved ones how much they mean to me!

iheartyourlurk November 30 2009, 23:23:36 UTC

i totally, totally agree. it's called "anticipatory greif"...being able to say good-bye and have some closure while you're still alive is probably really helpful in the grieving process...my friend brando's dad just died from cancer and he has dealt with it very well, mostly because he had a few weeks to visit with him and say everything he wanted to say. i definitely hope for that.