Comments | ingenuemuse: Trophy Husband

ingenuemuse

Trophy Husband

Nov 08, 2006 11:05

Is it wrong of me to objectify my husband's looks? I mean, every time I look at my husband's photo when he isn't around I keep thinking "damn, I got me one of them trophy husbands". It's just that his face is impossibly appealing to me. I've always been most drawn to "the face" when it comes to physical attraction. What I mean is that I never ( Read more... )

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spacecowgirl November 8 2006, 19:15:34 UTC

But now I have heard from a friend that a couple of others have commented on how I let "myself go just because I'm pregnant", and how long it will take for me look good again.

IF THAT IS EVEN TRUE (and I somehow doubt that "a couple of others" really said this, I'm serious), shame a thousand times on your "friend" for telling you. When you're already not feeling good about yourself, you don't need other people validating those bad feelings. What I REALLY suspect, though, is that this person is just that shallow, and decided to blame his/her feelings on your pregnancy weight on "others."

Honestly, I'd like to see for myself what you look like right now, because I 100% doubt it's anything like you THINK you look.

ingenuemuse November 8 2006, 19:26:26 UTC

Thanks doll, youre so awesome.

I would have suspected the same thing, had I not walked into a situation where I overheard part of the convo and had to squeeze it out of her. It made her really uncomfortable, but she was merely confirming what I thought I'd heard anyway.

Cameras are banned in my household for now, so I can not prove or disprove how I feel about my looks. I swear, once I snap out of this glum I'll rekindle my love affair with the camera.

spacecowgirl November 8 2006, 19:40:48 UTC

:-X Okay, scratch the bad things I said about the girl who told you and just switch them to the people who were talking to her. Sheesh, what bastards.

I understand about cameras. I haven't let anyone take a picture of me since January; my in-laws were here, and I really didn't know how chubby I'd gotten since my marriage until seeing the pictures they took. *sigh* My husband says I'm NOT as bad as I think I am and I still look good, but yeah right, like I'm gonna believe him. ;) Hmm, maybe I should take some of that advice I'm doling out now...

I am still of the opinion that you do not look like you think you do right now. I've never met a pregnant woman who didn't think she was disgustingly fat near the end of her pregnancy, when in fact they have all still been beautiful and looked like normal pregnant ladies.

ingenuemuse November 8 2006, 20:21:11 UTC

You're probably right. I need to let go of it, because in no way do I regret being pregnant at all-- so why bellyache about my looks.

Thanks for adding some clarity. Seriously.

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phreakphantasia November 8 2006, 21:22:06 UTC

If it makes you feel any better, I've already gained 30 pounds and I'm only 20 weeks pregnant. I went off of the Atkins diet when I found out that I was and have been gaining way too much weight. :(

ingenuemuse November 8 2006, 21:32:56 UTC

Be careful with that dear. It's p[erfectly health to gain 30 pounds-- the average is 25, I believe. But there is an increased risk of certain complications if you gain too much weight too quickly. I'm dealing with some complications, and let me tell ya--it's not that fun.

Congrats on your baby!

phreakphantasia November 8 2006, 21:53:30 UTC

Yeah, I'm trying not to gain too quickly, but it's really hard, since I'm supposed to be eating a lot of the things that were basically forbidden on my diet. I really need to exercise more, but it's really hard for me to motivate myself. I'd love to walk, but there's no way in Hell that I'm going to walk down my street for fear of getting hit by a hoodrat listening to "music" with the bass turned up so high that the trunk deck rattles and distorts the sound. I need to get a car sometime soon so that I can drive myself up to the walking track. (I'd feel much safer walking there.) I've tried talking my mom and dad into going walking with me, but so far I haven't had any luck.

Thanks! By the way, it's a girl! :D

ingenuemuse November 8 2006, 22:43:06 UTC

Well at 20 weeks you have 20 weeks to go, so I'm sure you'll figure something out-- or at least I hope so. Getting exercise would be less fun if you were told by your doctor you HAVE to get it "or else". Is there no sedewalk at all where you live? That's gotta suck.

Anyway, good luck and stay healthy!

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Is it wrong of you?? Is this a question? montecristo November 9 2006, 00:57:34 UTC

Any man of discernment would die to be the object of such a beautifully ingenuous veneration by a woman of your quality. Heh! Hod knows most of us see so little of it.

[Pardon me, whilst I fetch a stick to administer some righteous chastisement to the cynical divorced man who typed that last line!] *snerk*

I think the boy owes you some serious head for such a skillfully and lovingly administered public ego job -- which is not to say that it was not sincere, either. Indeed, the obvious sincerity of your admiration is the whipped cream on top of the rich dessert. I think, that had my own dear lady venerated me so genuinely I should have died of pride, and happilly so. The undertaker would not have been able to efface the grin. Alas, perhaps it is just as well she lacked such talent or inclination ( ... )

Re: Is it wrong of you?? Is this a question? ingenuemuse November 9 2006, 01:33:35 UTC

Oddly enough Michael doesn't even read my lj, so it's not like I've said any of this to flatter him. I could count the number of times he's read my lj on one hand. He's sorta weird about that. Neither of us really get too involved with each other's online ativities.

He knows that I find him wildly attractive--though I do try to play it down some as the man has ego to spare. I'm not saying he's arrogant, I'm just saying he's quite over confident about his looks.

Michael is well aware that I adore him. All in all I treat my man pretty good. I doubt you'd ever hear any complaints about how I treat him. I just don't let it go to his head. =)

Well you should! montecristo November 9 2006, 01:38:04 UTC

Then print out the entry and paste it into a Christmas or Thanksgiving card for the boy. Trust me. Men live for the kind of praise you just tossed off here. I don't care if he's already got attitude and ego. It is not a wife's job to teach her husband humility; he has the rest of the world to do that.

Sheesh. Do you think it is less than obvious that you treat your spouse well? Heh! It is one of the qualities that mark you as a hot wench.

Re: Well you should! ingenuemuse November 9 2006, 02:04:33 UTC

Oh he gets plenty of praise. Hell, I wish I were in his position sometimes. If someone were to walk up and ask my husband if he felt adored and appreciated he would honestly tell you yes even if he didn't think his answer would get back to me. I just don't let it go to his head. The man is well aware that I adore him. Truly. I just stop the praise shy of pumping him up so badly that it'd leave him expecting me to build a shrine in his honor or something.

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By the way, it is a tough job to be thin! montecristo November 9 2006, 01:25:51 UTC

Stop treating yourself as if you are a total failure of will and discipline. It's not only not true, it's also counterproductive. There are SO many things working against human slimness out in the world. I just read an interesting article in New Scientist today about some of the factors, totally outside the individual's control, which militate against thinness. Among these are the cessation of smoking and insomnia, of all things! You can honestly expect to put on some weight while pregnant, and if you breastfeed, it will be a little more difficult to shed as well, because you'll be hungry to replace what your body gives away to the baby. Stop fretting. Watch what you munch and then exercise a sensible health regimen after your son is born. I know you'll be successful. ; )

Re: By the way, it is a tough job to be thin! ingenuemuse November 9 2006, 01:53:55 UTC

Yeah, yeah I KNOW all of this. Like I said I wasn't looking for advice, or compliments, I am just documenting how I feel right now. You know, one day I may look back and say to myself "oh, so that's how I was feeling right then". Have you missed the part where I also admit in this entry (more than a couple of times) that I'm a good looking girl? Well, I didn't.

Chill on telling me to chill.

No one expects the Spanish Inquisition! montecristo November 9 2006, 02:09:33 UTC

Nevertheless, I spout compliments and advice gratuitously, whether solicited or not. I will, nevertheless, try to get a handle on it. Sorry. I'll stop giving you The Comfy Chair™.

Yes. I saw where you reasonably assesssed your own attractiveness. This is a good thing. Sorry about my nose. I suppose that I am overly sensitive to otherwise lovely women kicking themselves though. My dear ex suffered, at various times in our life, bouts of depression and watching someone denigrate or doubt their own value is corrosive to the souls around them as well. Heh. Okay, overly sensitive to the condition -- guilty as charged. I see how you are made of Sterner Stuff™. Point taken.

Re: No one expects the Spanish Inquisition! ingenuemuse November 9 2006, 02:35:36 UTC

Don't get me wrong--I appreciate the kind words, and this is the stuff I need to hear now and again. One thing with Michael is that he says he tells me I'm beautiful every day, when in reality he tells me that a few times a month but I KNOW he thinks that I am. It's just that sometimes we all need to be reminded that we are admired. Let's say we all agree on that point ( ... )

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