a lesson learned

[inside_th3_sun]

men are disturbed not of things but by the view in which they take of them.
It is thought by some that
A=C
A(Activating events) = C(emotional and behavioral consequences)

Ok so lets imagine for a second that you went out with someone , exchanged numbers , you called and they have yet to return your phone call. because of this your feel hurt and

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[deep_in_desire]

You may want to think that through a little further.

Emotions occur independent of certain thoughts.

Thoughts should regulate emotions,
because then you would be saying that by creating emotions, that thoughts pass on their sense of logic to a sentiment with no logic at all sometimes.

Logic is quite the opposite of emotion.
Maybe you are confusing the fact that your emotions do the thinking instead of your head.

[inside_th3_sun]

the way we see things is depepndant on a self-talk. ok so the phone call was not returned --so if u beleive (B) that the reason they didnt call you back is becasue they dont like you then you are only letting doubting your self when you could try and make logic of it to better yourself. . logically you can say to urself that there is a chance this person was busy, and just didnt have the time. but then again if you wanna go deeper into lets sayy the male mind. if a guy likes you he will make time to call you.. even if he is really busy

[inside_th3_sun]

The main point really is that people should take responsibility for our emotions or behavioral responnse. we believe what we want to beleieve. if we are always doubting ourselves, and we belive it enough it will show --we will always be unhappy . but if we are confident, and belive that we can achieve and do ne thing we set our minds to then we will... some people let there thoughts control them, but you shouldnt let your thoghts control you. use your logic and understanding as a guiding tool. to love yourself and make your slf happy take responsibility if things are not going right or oif you beome overly depressed dont blame it on god or ne one else... it is up to u whether or not you want to be in that situation and feel that way.