The tornado has passed

[irishfall]

Girls are just f'd in the head, I've come to that conclusion. I don't know how you could have such a false perception of reality to convince yourself for two months of dating/living with another person that you never loved them? When you asked them to move in with you? When you took them engagement ring shopping? Hahahah. That's hysterical.

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[tru_novice]

whoa. i didnt know that it was that serious. im a lil young for engagement, but to me she was the one for that. she told me, for the past few months, she never knew if she loved me. she said i was too controlling. honestly though, she wasnt very good w/ relationships.

yeah

[irishfall]

It was pretty serious. I had my walls up too. I think she just wanted to toy around with my emotions because she had the power. She told me everything I needed to hear to let my guard down and then once she got to my heart, she set a time bomb and got the hell out. Time to just pick up the pieces. Easier said than done.

Re: yeah

[tru_novice]

hey. did you ever get your stuff back? tryin to ask a girl on a date, but dont quite know how cuz she is a lil older than me, which is good cuz ive been told i am mature for my age.

Re: yeah

[irishfall]

naw, she never dropped my stuff off. I'm at a catch 22 because if I call her to get my stuff, she's gonna flip out and say that I won't leave her alone so I guess I just have to wait a while. No biggie. That stuff's replaceable I guess. The last thing I want is some psycho bullshit on my hands so I'll just let her calm down before I try to get it back.

My best advice to you is to take this next one very slow and find out within yourself if you are ready to let the other girl go. A new relationship can be a good diversion and will take your mind off the other one, but it's not fair to her if you still have feelings for the other. It'll be destined to fail from the start....and you never know what you could be passing up because you jumped into something too soon. You'll figure it out. I just wish I knew at your age what I know now. Life would have and would be a lot simpler, i think.

[closetangel]

sigh

have to say - that was a great closing line.

thanks

[irishfall]

i thought it pertained quite well.

honestly though, she's so messed up in the head that she accused me of being the bad guy here. Delusion at it's finest.

thanks

[irishfall]

It's ok....I guess I just let myself believe that this girl was the one. She told me everything I needed to hear without her truly feeling it. It's just a downer because I don't really know what to believe anymore. An empty feeling, no doubt.

[heartcrime]

that sucks monkey balls man

[lilmez]

that was a good closing line, if i do say so myself.
i must take up for the female gender. my brother once told me i was normalizing it. but that has no relevance to you. but hey, we get confused sometimes. and maybe she had seen her ex out and around, and he had used words loaded with sweetness, and she was confused and wondered if she loved him and not you.
or maybe she really is a bitch. which a lot more of us than id like to say are.
but i am sorry you were hurt. it is unfair when people use you like that. i cant say i understand though...not of the age for engagement. much younger.
and hey, if she turned you away like that then shes not worth it. there are more fish in the sea. think about that. better fish that have patience and give you reasons for what they do.
personally i dont plan on playing house unless my 6-year old cousin asks me to be the mommy and her the teenager.

Re: that sucks monkey balls man

[irishfall]

I appreciate the support and insight, but I have realized that she's not even close to worth my time. The pain that I've felt in this situation will only allow me to enjoy it that much more when the right one comes along. I'm over it, and enjoying the single life. Less headaches.

Re: that sucks monkey balls man

[lilmez]

indeed, less headaches. oh how i miss the single life...