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irrevocabilis

Planet Earth.

Mar 15, 2011 19:18

I'm still unemployed, but my unemployment ran out... it had to one day right? Except now I have become cheaper and I'm looking and interviewing for jobs that I had 4 years ago... paddling back, yes but what I saw today was kind of heart wrenching and I just had to share:
I was at Peet's applying for a shift manager job. The manager was talking to ( Read more... )

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Love them... jurek March 16 2011, 03:09:55 UTC

Maybe they are just trying to help in the only way they know how.

When you were very young, your parents knew everything and you knew nothing. You depended on their wisdom. There will be a time when they will recognize you as the person who knows everything and they will be quite insecure in their judgment, depending on you to help them with basic tasks. Someplace in the middle there is a point of disappointment for children who suddenly realize (and resent) how lame their parents turn out to be. The parents will not see this point until much after you see it and in the meantime they will think that they can still offer you valuable advice and pep-talk. Think 20 years from now, when you will be taking them to doctor's visits, help them deal with taxes, etc. and love them.
Spoken as a father of children who think him totally lame. :-)

Re: Love them... irrevocabilis March 16 2011, 07:02:29 UTC

The main problem I have with my step dad is that it always seems like he's criticizing me, no matter what I do... :( He pretty much made me feel like I don't have a job because I chose not to get hired, and when I DID get a good job he immediately said I'm wasting my time and should go back to school. When I got laid off he was surprised that I couldn't get financial aid to cover all of my tuition and completely doesn't understand that the only reason why I don't actually go back full time is because I can't afford it. I don't have the heart to tell him that I actually did get accepted into some of the best art schools in California, but I couldn't picture myself with that much debt ( ... )

Re: Love them... irrevocabilis March 16 2011, 07:03:28 UTC

Oh! And man, my parents are 49! 20 years?? ;)

Re: Love them... jurek March 16 2011, 22:58:47 UTC

I am sorry to hear about your dad's treatment of you and your mom. He obviously is not tuned in to the people in his life. And looks like you are still craving his approval and admiration, which is a natural feeling in all of us. Tough situation. Hugs!

opheliafloats March 19 2011, 05:13:49 UTC

Woah, yeah I would feel really weird observing that interaction too.... I wonder what that lady's story is? You probably hit the nail on the head, though maybe she just dressed the part?

Your parents and my mom would make the most hilarious and heartbreaking reality TV show ever. Situations like this really bring out the worst in them, don't they? Try to interact with them as little as possible and avoid the subject, it's hard enough! Sheesh! :/

I know that you'll find something you love, even if it means a "for now" type job in the meantime, that's still valuable experience! You are so over qualified for a lot of stuff, which makes it super hard too....
Giant squishy hug!!!!!! <3

irrevocabilis March 23 2011, 02:10:47 UTC

Yeeeah - what drove me insane this time was the whole matter-of-factness that is waldek's speciality... especially because I've been feeling really down and getting desperate, the whole attitude just almost made me explode! And I was soo offended that he seemed surprised!
I think that I'm in that really difficult too much/too little experience slot - I need something mid mid level, and those are soo tough to find right now!

ojkolego March 20 2011, 16:21:12 UTC

I'm not sure if I should chime in from this other continent and culture ( ... )

ojkolego March 20 2011, 16:23:49 UTC

(Thanks, LJ, to mention the max commentary lenght after the fact. This means I had to split this comment into 2 parts, and this is part 2 ( ... )

irrevocabilis March 23 2011, 02:38:31 UTC

LOL!! The Brother Grimms Tales of the 70's - yeeees, what also drives me insane is that my step dad always managed to find the right people to help him at the exact right times in his life, and it seems like I'm just tripping over my feet ( ... )

irrevocabilis March 23 2011, 02:53:44 UTC

Oh, but I'm pretty sure cavemen didn't have TV or opium... didn't Plato explain that one before? ;)

ojkolego March 23 2011, 20:00:22 UTC

Cavemen may have known mushrooms and beer. But I'm sure unemployment wasn't invented just yet, hence no need for TV morning shows. Or NASDAQ. Or Linkedin. Not even electricity! (Don't know about business and art schools, though … :-P

rmw1 March 20 2011, 22:15:46 UTC

I always hated that type of matter-of-fact I-know-better-than-you attitude that I saw when I was looking for work. If you're bored sometime, I'll tell you about how my uncle and cousin (and bad ex) ganged up on me and made me cry at a family gathering when I was already stressed and depressed about not being able to find work for 6 months... During the Dot Com bust when a ton of software folks were out of a job.

On the plus side, my mom and step-dad took my side on that one, after hearing about what had happened...