Comments | iwouldloveto: I'm honestly curious...

iwouldloveto

I'm honestly curious...

Jun 23, 2007 11:11

As to what you all think About This

A very pro-life member of my friends list posted this and her determination that these people are absolute scum who are just trying to rip people off.(This list is pretty heavily filtered to not include anyone else I have on my list that she may have on her list.) I really feel pretty strongly about it. I think ( Read more... )

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believe_in_me June 23 2007, 15:31:41 UTC

I think it's a scam. They have no proof and remain anonymous...so nobody will ever know.

iwouldloveto June 23 2007, 15:35:02 UTC

True. Very true.

I just want to believe that that isn't the case.

If people want to rip people off, there's many other ways to do it... without getting hate mail. You know???

mule13 June 23 2007, 16:48:19 UTC

I think they're ridiculous...to say that it would be too difficult to give up a child for adoption, yet they don't seem have a problem with abortion other than it's not their first choice is disgusting to me

secondly, to say that the only way they would actually have the child is if they had enough money for a downpayment on a house, a new car, and money to put into a college fund is ridiculous too...I'd be willing to bet most people who have kids have far less than that when they start out, and are able to raise good children, and with a bit of hard work, are able to give their children everything they need

assuming everything they say is true and it's not a scam, it sounds like they're far too immature to have a child, and I would never give them a penny

clearly I have strong opinions about this, but ultimately I agree that it has to be an individual choice :-)

believe_in_me June 23 2007, 18:42:59 UTC

I agree with everything you said. I mean yeah obviously it takes money to have a baby/raise a child..but ultimately what matters most is not a paid for house or car but the child being taken care of properly and loved...unless they think they can buy love with some of the 50,000.

iwouldloveto June 23 2007, 22:24:10 UTC

I agree, the college fund is a ridiculous thing to say you need the money for... a house, no you don't NEED one. A reliable car... yes. A new car... no. The biggest thing on that list is the medical bills... but most hospitals have charity care for people without insurance... and hey, they can't turn you away.

I guess my point, is that I'd rather see them ask for help, then depend on my tax money to raise their child.

HOWEVER, the fact that they're saying give me the money or the kid gets it, that makes me absolutely ill.

boygirlparty June 23 2007, 18:29:04 UTC

that made me want to throw up. i hate the internets!

iwouldloveto June 23 2007, 22:34:27 UTC

Yeah.

thespunmonkey June 23 2007, 18:50:06 UTC

in my opinion, this couple is not ready for parenthood. having a baby changes your lifestyle whether you have money or not. you don't need to be able to buy a house and a new car to bring a child into the world and raise it lovingly. sure, i'd like my little guy to be able to have/experience a lot of things we can't afford, but he is quite fond of our fifteen-year-old volvo station wagon that we got for $1000, and is happy as clam running around in hand-me-down clothing. he would never know the difference between something new and expensive or something old and used unless we made a big deal of it, and above all else, we can provide him with love and security regardless of our financial straits. if they think they cannot give their child enough with what they have in their hearts to give, than there's more than just a money problem here. i must defer to the beatles: all you need is love, baby.

iwouldloveto June 23 2007, 22:34:03 UTC

Them beatles... they were smart folk.

I don't know the financial situation of this couple... maybe they barely make ends meet now.. maybe there are other things that go into play. I'm sure that they're damn scared. But the thing that really upset me was the "Give us money, or the baby gets it." attitude.

thespunmonkey June 23 2007, 22:58:37 UTC

yeah, um...they're essentially holding a fetus for ransom, and that's seriously nauseating.

misshawklet June 23 2007, 19:03:42 UTC

I didn't get through the whole post but wtf? Who asks for $50K from strangers?! That is just nuts. BUT I am not prolife so maybe I don't quite understand.

I also agree that if you can't afford a baby, you really need to think twice about having one. NOT that only the rich (god help us) should reproduce, but...its complicated.

iwouldloveto June 23 2007, 22:32:26 UTC

Exactly... it is very complicated. We want a baby, we can't afford one right now... so we'll wait.

But if I were in this situation, I A)wouldn't be asking strangers for money. B) I'd figure something out. I'd work extra jobs... I'd .. I'd figure something out.

I'm very torn, because part of me says this is better than them relying on the taxpayers to pay for their baby.