Comments | jacquic79: Things I hate right now... (because I am in that kind of mood)

jacquic79

Things I hate right now... (because I am in that kind of mood)

Mar 06, 2008 22:16

I hate when people ask for your help or advice with a given problem when what they really mean is 'I want you to agree with me and help me flush my life down the toilet ( Read more... )

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tao_te_chimera March 6 2008, 15:40:46 UTC

A former friend of mine would routinely ask for advice. It soon became obvious to me (and to anyone who knew him) that he had no interest in your advice. He would shoot down every single bit of practical advice he was given by any party. He was really looking, in a kind of insane way, for people to tell him the same bizarro things he was thinking.

Syncophancy is indeed a word. These people are trying to be 'supportive'. Probably because they're used to people getting bent out of shape if they dare to say something different.

Sorry about the 'old friend'. It may be that she's gotten used to looking down on you for various reasons and is now jealous that you are achieving your desires (in other words, how dare you not stay where she's pigeon-holed you!); or it could be completely about HER not having what she wants in life and have very little to do with you, other than as a reminder of that fact.

jacquic79 March 7 2008, 11:07:30 UTC

I just worry about the couple of friends I have who are getting this at the moment... they NEED to change their behaviour if they hope to improve their situation and more importantly their psychological health. And here they are with 'friends' giving them support for 'the soft option' so they don't have to make hard choices.

Pisses me off :)

paradigmshifty March 7 2008, 00:56:29 UTC

{hugs}

jacquic79 March 7 2008, 11:04:34 UTC

*hugs*

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jacquic79 March 7 2008, 11:04:12 UTC

Yes you have a good point there...

So how is work going? I hope things have settled down a little now.

nicked_metal March 7 2008, 09:48:13 UTC

*hugs*

For the record, I appreciated your recent (most definitely non-sycophantic) comment in my LJ.

jacquic79 March 7 2008, 11:08:01 UTC

*hugs back*

glad I didn't offend you :)

margots_coat March 15 2008, 21:32:58 UTC

I hope this has nothing to do with me? Cause...I know I am bitching a lot, but I'm also planning for being in a situation where I don't have to...it's just going to take another 9 months or so before I can do what I need to do.

margots_coat March 16 2008, 05:11:39 UTC

Nah you're cool... I've got a rl friend who is just screwing her life and everyone in it. Driving me nuts!

I am a little worried about you though.

margots_coat March 16 2008, 16:55:02 UTC

I know. Everyone is. Including my hairdresser. She even gave me her cell last night and said if I ever need to run away to call her.

But I went through five years of Hell I call my relationship with Joe, and I was totally stuck - nowhere to go. That's not the case now and if it weren't for my degree, I would have left. So I figure if it takes another 9 months to get my degree (because I can't transfer now and if I did, it would be really hard to get into another school), and just set that time-line and have an escape plan in place, I'll be okay.

So unlike with Joe, where I was truly TRAPPED with NOWHERE to go, I'm not trapped now (at least not after my B.A. is finished) and I've got plenty of places to move.

It's a bit ironic that when I lived in my hometown, I had noplace to go, but now that I live on the other coast I've got lots of places.

**hugs**