Get over it.....

[jamee13]

My sister Val (the one that lives in Hawaii) has decided that it's not possible that I am actually sober.  So she's being a bitch and pointing out every single flaw in my life over the past 3 years to prove her point that I'm not sober.  She doesn't live here.  She doesn't see me and my day to day life. It hurts but honestly, it's her cross to bear

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[isabelle_guns]

Wow that is bitchy

[jeetles]

jamee.. my brother is also NOT sober right now.. maybe some day? (you take care of YOU!)

[jamee13]

Thanks honey. It helps to know I'm not alone.
It hurts to hear her words........but I know it's coming from her unhappiness

[pamc]

Sounds like she's projecting...

[jamee13]

What do you mean Pam?

[pamc]

It's sounds like she's blaming you for thing that she's actually committing.

My mom does this all the time. She tells me how I'm not honest, unreliable, not trustworthey with money, how I'll talke advantage of her or how if she gives me money I'll use it for the wrong things.

I have no history of ever doing any of these things wrong. But they're things that she's constantly doing wrong.

She claims I'm doing these things because she can't face her own reflection in the mirror. She has to pull me down telling me how terrible I am because she's actually horrified by how good I am and how terrible she is.

That's projecting.

(Or at least, that's the definition of projecting as I was taught it...)