Should have kept my mouth shut...

[jamincollins]

Broke the news to the family today that I'm once again looking at selling the house. I've frankly over-extended myself quite a bit with this place. Monthly mortgage payments don't leave really anything for savings or emergency planning. As a result we live only day to day, paycheck to paycheck, with no end in sight for the foreseeable future.

Comments

[monafair]

It's never too much to ask. The only problem with asking is that sometimes you won't get everything. But you might at least get part of what you're asking for.

If that made any sense.

As far as the money thing, you need to do what's right and living paycheck to paycheck doesn't really work for a lot of people. Matt and I are in the same boat at the moment. We are both trying to get better paying jobs so we can really start to save money. Then again, we have to stop spending it too. :)

Let us know if you need someone to talk to. *hugs*

[jamincollins]

I've reviewed my situation quite a few times over the last few years and come to realize that in purchasing a house you should really not extend yourself beyond about one third of your income in terms of mortgage or rental payments. Unfortunately, I'm currently at more like 55% of my monthly income for this place. It simply isn't viable. I know they understand that bit of it

[jamincollins]

I committed quite a while back to providing for mom, and don't plan on changing that. I just don't know if we can continue to live in the same house. I really don't mind paying for two places, or even subsidizing one for them to live in. I just don't know that we can really continue to live as we have been. I don't see many women being open to entering into such an arrangement. Nor, do I think it's fair to ask them to. But as I say, I have committed to providing for mom and don't plan on changing that. I think we all just need to change the how bit.

[jamincollins]

Granted it's not an if-then. However, most that would eventually be amenable to the situation would bolt if the situation were revealed from the start.

[ajatagge]

Well jamin I think it is admirable that you take care of your family. I think if you are with a woman who is serious about you. She'll understand.

I also think that you know whats best for you, and if that looks like your own place. I support you 100%. Let me know how I can help, and how I can support you.

[jasoncrowley]

You know I'm with you on the house benifit/ratio thing. I'm only making ends meet in my neck of the woods, but at least the home is only 1/3 of the net income.

I have to take a different camp in regards to your Family.

In this day an age we all have to be open minded about what family means to the individual as well as the group.

I just don't see how anyone who would love you for you, whom would also reject your extended family in the way you seem to suggest. I feel that such a rejection would only lead to further heartache farther down the line.

Don't abandon your strong family virtues for a fling. That's my 2c.