So tonight, a man in West Chester told me I deserved to have my "fag body" thrown into a meat grinder, and I have been crying since 9:45 because of it.
i want to believe in the fundamental goodness of peopleex_alouiciou779April 17 2006, 07:56:09 UTC
maybe so but, when dealing with a drunk who would even think to say something like that, and who apparently has a reputation for particularly hateful homophobia, by saying things like "Hey, now, do you really want to turn someone as nice as me into Puppy Chow?" or even prodding him with deep but not accusatory questions, one is not only risking ending up in a discomforting token zone, but ending up in a discomforting smacked in the face with a crowbar zone, or stalked and attacked later, and ending up in a discomforting coffin zone. sadly, this is the risk queers run every minute of every day. one cannot expect the hateful and ignorant to be reasonable, and while i want to believe that i myself would have the strength to confront someone in the way of which you speak, it is, indeed, a calculated risk, and would you want to stake your life on the potential of your good nature to illuminate that violent cretin's darkness?
hi. i came here through an entry of marc's. i don't know what to offer you except the sympathy of knowing exactly what that feels like, both the pain of being broadsided by someone's dangerous, ignorant hate, and the pain of not being able to fight back, even with an acknowledgement of your own existence. it comes out of nowhere, it hurts dreadfully, and you did nothing wrong by not being able to respond. i know you wish you could have but no one can prepare for that moment until they experience it and, afterwards? all the preparation in the world doesn't make it less dangerous or shocking.
if it makes you feel any better at all, that asshole is clearly a closet-case.
Hello, I'm from marc's list too. Here's the thing: the guy is a tremedous moron. And frankly, his peabrain thoughts are WAY beneath your time and emotional taxation. I agree with you about "But I exist and they have to know that". The thing is, it's too much for one person to take on the world with every encounter. Absolutely, one should fight for recognition, for equality. I don't usually let ignorant comments go by either, but you definitely have to pick your times....letting douchebags wear you down, make you feel low, is not good for you or the cause. OriHai
for more on such closet case homophobia, I highly recommend Middle Sexes: Redefining He And She. I can burn you a copy if you're coming to Rainbow Carnage :)
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i don't know what to offer you except the sympathy of knowing exactly what that feels like, both the pain of being broadsided by someone's dangerous, ignorant hate, and the pain of not being able to fight back, even with an acknowledgement of your own existence. it comes out of nowhere, it hurts dreadfully, and you did nothing wrong by not being able to respond. i know you wish you could have but no one can prepare for that moment until they experience it and, afterwards? all the preparation in the world doesn't make it less dangerous or shocking.
if it makes you feel any better at all, that asshole is clearly a closet-case.
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If you haven't read the research on closet-case homophobia, let me know, I will link you to it.
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Here's the thing: the guy is a tremedous moron. And frankly, his peabrain thoughts are WAY beneath your time and emotional taxation.
I agree with you about "But I exist and they have to know that". The thing is, it's too much for one person to take on the world with every encounter. Absolutely, one should fight for recognition, for equality. I don't usually let ignorant comments go by either, but you definitely have to pick your times....letting douchebags wear you down, make you feel low, is not good for you or the cause.
OriHai
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