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jeanniecee

Feminism vs Oppression

Sep 13, 2009 09:59

I consider myself a feminist. I feel that women haven't had equal rights and feel that we still don't in some ways and I think that should change. I think that the power structures that exist in our society are harmful in a lot of ways.

But to me, being a feminist does not mean I can be a bully in my relationship.

The other night I was out at a ( Read more... )

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wolfcaroling September 14 2009, 17:21:42 UTC

Hear hear. I have major problems with reverse sexism. I don't think it is ever appropriate for one member of a relationship to MAKE the other do anything. It's never appropriate to tell the other person to diet, or to tell them that their desires for their OWN wedding are not worth listening to ( ... )

jeanniecee October 12 2009, 15:26:29 UTC

Agreed. It annoys me a lot that there's this cultural stereotype of men as lazy asses and women as bitches. It bugs me when otherwise intelligent people buy into that stereotype too. Tony has friends who lie to their wives/girlfriends so that they can go out with their friends to bars. They look at me like I'm some sort of new breed of human when I go out too and debate with Tony over the hotness of a waitress. I would rather he be honest with me and deal with who he actually is than be lied to all the time.

jack_rowen October 5 2009, 04:29:16 UTC

I've had this problem for awhile when speaking with girls that I know. Or sitting at a table and hearing women speak about what "let" their men do and don't do. It's all in an attempt to control the relationship to fit their needs and quell their insecurities. Men are guilty of it as well, but it always surprises me when I see more and more women doing the exact same thing ( ... )

jeanniecee October 12 2009, 15:32:12 UTC

Thanks for your reply. I agree with you totally. I've had people tell my I have no self respect because I trust my partner enough to go over to other women's houses _unsupervised_! *shock horror* I was so angry when I was told this. I trust my partner. I know that he tells me the truth. I don't want to change who he is any more than I want him to change who I am. Feminism does not mean that women are better than men, it's supposed to be about equality, not women telling men what to do because they are bad or stupid or untrustworthy.