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[jesseart]

So today was interesting. A friend/co-worker asked me to have her baby! She and her girlfriend decided it was time apparently. I can see the difficulty. As a lesbian couple in the VERY RED state of Ohio, there's no chance of an adoption. So anyway, my response went something like this: "Huh? (She repeats question) What? You serious? Ummm, I

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[semolina]

Where's the fetus going to gestate? Are you going to keep it in a box?

In all seriousness, if they were to pay you to donate your sperm, that's some easy money. Just make sure they're following all the rules. I'd imagine there being some sort of contract involved saying you waive the rights to the baby and whatnot, but definitely find out more information before you agree to anything.

[abbythebrave]

It's not like I have an overall moral objection to impregnating someone who can't get pregnant another way or anything, but for me, sex is too important to do it with someone I'm not in love with. Can't you just donate sperm? That's what someone at my church got, so she could have a baby.

[seraphimdenoir]

I'll have to agree with Abby here...I deffinatly can't have any physical contact with a person I don't like or even know, and most certainly would never be able to have sex with anyone I didn't love...(sorry if my spelling is worse...too much Japanese.) Anyway. Yeah, maybe you can just donate or something? Or suggest that they look into something like that...lots of sperm/genes to choose from...

[jesseart]

Me either. I have to be really comfortable with someone before I can even think about sexual contact.

I don't really know how donating would work, but I wouldn't want to anyway. I'm kind of protective of my genes.

[keepusbothalive]

I know what you mean by "protective of my genes". One of my friends from high school was telling me all about how she just went in to be an egg donor. She was blatantly hinting that I should go "aid the childless" as well, but I'm just not comfortable with the idea.
As far as your coworker goes, though- would the couple expect or want you to take any responsibility in the child's upbringing? Would you want any contact? Also, just to throw this out there: I've heard (in a completely non-urban-legend, no-joke sense) of lesbian couples using a consenting friend's semen and a turkey baster to get pregnant. Maybe that's what they had in mind, who knows?

[cpt_fantastic]

Jeez, that's a hard decision. I can only speak for myself, but genes aside, it seems like there would major emotional considerations as well. Just the very fact of "being a father," even if you have nothing to do with the raising of the child. Or would you even want to be a father and not be involved in the life of the child? For myself, there would be issues that go beyond the biological facts of reproduction. For example, what kind of care and nurturing would the child receive? Would you have any say in the matter?

[cheesley1230]

Any options that go through a sperm bank rather than doing it the old fashioned way are going to cost money.