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[jetstobrazil]

Sometime in 2001, after my grandfather passed away, it was decided my grandmother would come and live with us. We decided we would put an addition of a second larger master bedroom and bathroom on the rear of the house, which was to become my parents. The room that was theirs would become mine, and my old room would now belong to my grandmother

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[8bit]

i'm sorry frank. i went through something similar with my grandfather.. he died about ten years ago, and towards the end of his life he was not really himself, physically, mentally, emotionally. we all knew what was coming but it didn't make it any easier. like you say, in hindsight i can say that not spending as much time with him as i did earlier in his life was a good thing in one way, because he really wasn't who i remember him to be.. but that doesn't change the regret.

[jetstobrazil]

Thanks for the kind words, Mike. I really appreciate it. Sincerely.

Thanks for taking the time to read this as well. I know sometimes people see long posts and just skip past them. As you said, there's regret, but I feel like it could be worse. I remember all the good time, and I know had I visited more my memories would be of her in a bland hospital room, incoherent and sickly. It's times like this, when I think of the positive memories, that I don't feel regret so much as I do good old fashioned loss.

[jadorelefromage]

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{{hugs}}

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[usftampachic]

Im sorry....hugs

[therains___]

I'm sorry, Frank.
You know I know what it's like.
Especially the line In some ways I feel like I lost my grandmother four years ago.

I feel like I lost my dad a week prior to his death because he had a stroke and nothing worked anymore. I'm sorry you didn't get to say goodbye. I thank the stars every day that I got to say goodbye to my dad. In exactly 7 days, I will have been 2 months, and it still hasn't sunk in. I feel as though I should have visited him more at home, even though I visited quite often...there's always more you could have done, and I am stuck with a permanent feeling that I should visit...and then it hits me that I can't.

In short, you never really get used to someone not being around.
Sorry, I'm not trying to make this about me...I just know what it's like.
You know my phone line's always open.

shannon

[jetstobrazil]

Ah, you. I know I said it in a letter, after the fact, but when I heard about your dad, my heart sank. I was there with you even five years ago while he was struggling, and I should have been there more recently as well. It's easy for someone to judge form on high, but the fact is I respect you a tremendous amount, and any ill words I spoke, hard as it is to say and even harder to believe, came from concern. I just handled it incorrectly and ignorantly, and for that I apologize. I know it's probably water under the bridge, but regardless, I felt the need to reiterate.

It seems like strokes are the common catalyst of deterioration. I haven't been there or experienced it like you have, but you're right, it doesn't seem like two months. Honestly, I'm not sure if what's happened has even set in to me yet. I suppose time will tell, or an emotional service perhaps. Thanks for the kind words, miss. I'm glad we're still friends.

[enantiomeric]

regardless of the state of our friendship, i am deeply sorry.
you know that i really do empathize with this as my grandparents are in similarly failing health/mental states.
please give your mom my sympathies and a hug.
if you need anything...well, you know.

[jetstobrazil]

Thank you, mongo. I appreciate it. I do know you empathize, and I will definitely let my mom know you send your regards. I'm regretful I didn't extend the same hand to you when you were in a similar situation, but I'm quite grateful you didn't follow my lead. It's seems I'm always thanking you for being youi and this time is no different.

PS. I like your new icon, although I have no idea it's origins.

[enantiomeric]

tell your mom that i miss her a great deal.

thank you for appeciating me. i try my best. and of course, despite our lack of friendship at the moment, i always think of you and your family when you are in a time of need.

my icon was drawn by a local artist about a month ago at circus mcgurkis near your house in fuller park. he was quite good, and i bought a piece of his art. i saw miles that day as well. he's huge and has outgrown his little sleeping rock.

ps. time to stop throwing my juvenile tantrum. welcome back to the friends list.