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[jinni_x]

I don't know if things have changed on me in the last decade or so or perhaps I appear to have mellowed out and become (gasp!) approachable, but we really need to talk about this personal space thing

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[sputnik5]

I'm honored:)
Seriously though, I don't mind hugs as much, but the kissing thing drives me nuts (you know, simultaneous kissing of eachother's cheeks.) Not only is it a logistics nightmare, but, with a couple notable exceptions, most people who do that are really not people I want to get that close to.
So let me know if you find a polite way to convey that you want personal space without implying that you dislike the person :) I've tried very goopy lip gloss/lipstick. Doesn't help.

[jinni_x]

My Swiss French friends let me get away without the kiss thing, but they pretty much air kiss anyway. But yeah, unless you grew up on it and know 'the dance' it's obnoxious.
I'm just going to be straightforward and say it's not you, but I just don't feel comfortable with it. And if they can't deal then they can go to hell :)

[reyvin]

Srsly! I hate that. The whole hugging thing. It's one reason (of the many) that'd I never survive on Survivor. They're always freakin hugging and they just met! Gah! I hate that. I must give off a vibe cuz few people actually go through with the hug. I can see them wind up for it and I guess I must tense or something cuz they tend to back off quick. LoL. And I got lucky too. Only two people touched my belly spontaneously and both were nurses in doctor's offices and they did it so fast I didn't have time to react.

[ouwiyaru]

I'll try to remember to be good. I, like your husband, came from a pretty huggy childhood/culture. Perhaps because of that, I find it perplexing that after hand-shaking -level acquaintanceness, physical contact goes down rather than a more linear progression.

Maybe the terrorist fist jab will fill the gap for you ;-)